Declining bridal shower

Hmm I feel the same way about these type of parties. But here's a word of caution: I declined an engagement party and my mom still cries about it on a regular basis... and it's been almost a year. Her friends are even throwing her a "Mother of the Bride" party because they all think I'm a cruel daughter who ruined everything for her mother by not having an engagement party. People are sensitive and wacko about this stuff. If I could go back, I'd be like "Sure, throw me whatever parties. I'll deal with it." to avoid this drama.

As someone who didn't have anyone offer to throw me a shower and that bums me out, I think you should just have an honest conversation with her about it. Tell her your concerns about guest not being able to come. And then if you do have the shower, make a registry with things you would like to upgrade and tell her you would rather not play games or come to an agreement on a game you could tolerate playing. I think it is very sweet of her to offer and if it was me I would say yes.

Ugh yeah I just think back on my baby shower and how much I absolutely hated it lol. I mean I loved celebrating my daughter but it was just to much nonsense and the whole time I just wanted to leave .

I was the same exact way and I offered many times to those asking to throw it if we could please go have lunch so we can spend time together, that may be an option if you have a lot of out of town people and want to just do something low key with your god mother... but I will say as they have not given me a choice and we are having one, I have grown excited to see the ones invited and have a tiny break in the stress of planning. i felt like you, and didn't want to inconvenience anybody at all, but it really does make some people happy doing things like this for people they love and i think that's the difference sometimes.

Yeah that's why I asked I don't want to take that away from her at all, but I think she will be very upset by the number of declines . I would say 80% of the women coming live out of state .

It's something you'll never have again, I would just do it and appreciate who plans it and who comes to enjoy you on a special day and the special meaning

I agree with MrsS. You may not want it now but later you may miss the lost experience. Maybe you could do an intimate gathering of close family and friends? I understand your position a lot of my friends and a lot of my family are out of state as well. But it could still be a nice gathering. Good luck!

I think you should except but just let her know that you just want something simple and maybe find one or two low key games that don't annoy you as much lol. Good luck!

Honestly, I would politely decline the shower if you feel strongly against it. It is very nice of someone to offer to throw you one but the purpose of the shower is to shower the bride with gifts and lots of love. If you are uncomfortable with it (I totally feel you, I am too) then decline. I am not of the mind that you just need to suck it up and do it. If you are really concerned it will hurt her feelings, maybe just suggest a very intimate gathering whether that be a shower or just a lunch, with only a few close relatives and friends.