Declines because of Covid?

I can see your disappointment but unfortunately this pandemic has made people very uncomfortable to travel and there’s not much you could do for that. I’m sorry he can’t make it though.

It may have been helpful to send the invitations closer to the wedding so that people have a better understanding of what things will be like by then. And as you mentioned, it’s because of the pandemic, not anything personal.

This isn’t about you not being worthy, people are scared of this pandemic and scared for their health. I know it’s hard but try not to take it personally because it sounds like it has nothing to do with you.

Having a wedding during this pandemic has alot of pros and cons and one of them cons is rejections....Ppl a r e afriad bc as we all know the virus is still out there and its not going nowhere...im sorry and i know this situation can be frustrating

Agree with others, it’s not personal. The world has done a great job at making people scared. I’m sure their health is what they are thinking about. I would be also very sad if someone close to me declined, but please know it is not because they don’t care about you!

Basically everyone said it best. The reality is having a wedding during this time is scary. You should not feel you are not important but you cannot compare the wedding you went to last year when this was not an issue versus now. I hate to sound harsh as that is not my intention, while your wedding is important people's health takes priority. This has nothing to do with how much people love you but things are so uncertain right now it is hard for people to make travel arrangements. While this is easier said than done IMO do not focus on the amount of guests or who is there rather you marrying your sweetheart and becoming his wife.

Don't take it to heart. Many have fear because of media's information about Covid. I recommend seeing if you can use zoom so that your loved ones can watch your cerenony online. Now, if they can't do that, then it may be something personal unless it's a gpod excuse (i.e. crazy ill, in hospital).

I totally understand. We just got a decline from someone we thought they were for sure going to come. It was one of my FH's cousins. But she messaged us last night and they declined because of COVID and not knowing what to expect for the school situation this coming year. Honestly, she is one of my favorites for my FH's family but I do understand. It does hurt, but nothing I can do about it. Just remember the most important thing is that you are marrying the love of your life!!

Are people telling you they aren’t coming, or did you already send out invitations? Invitations are typically sent out 2-3 months before the wedding. If people already received an invitation for November, they are likely feeling like they need to make a decision now instead of waiting to see what the situation is going to be like in the fall. We are getting married on the same date but aren’t sending invitations until late August. We did send Save the Dates so people know when the wedding will be and can plan accordingly.

I'm so sorry Corinne. I know it can't feel good but it's definitely not personal! As everyone has said this pandemic is completely unprecedented, and ultimately everyone has to make the safest decision for their health.

I'd definitely still send out formal invitations and RSVPs to all of your guests when you're 6-8 weeks away from your wedding date - even to the guests who have already declined! Some people may still be firm declines due to age, health, or travel - but who knows what November could look like, so some people might be open to attending again.

I would also look into a way to stream your ceremony for your grandpa, or see if you can schedule a special time to visit him!

I feel disappointed too. Waiting till next month to decide if things should be cancelled or not 😢

I'm having the same thing happen, even for family members I thought would never miss it. Sucks, but understandable and the show must go on at this point. I'm kind of hoping for more declines at this rate to be honest because I'm feeling overwhelmed with the numbers lol. We invited 215, based on replies so far our max would be 175.....kind of hope to get down below 150 at this rate so at least it'll reduce our catering cost and feel more manageable with everything going on. Heck, 135 and I'd be ecstatic!

View Quoted Comment I am now over my guest count and have to pay for them $65 each.