Decision Time: Hypenated? Two Last Names? or Maiden Name?

I am taking his last name, and actually keeping my middle name I was born with. My middle name is a family name, and long story short my current last name is not.

I took his name. I would have preferred to makeup a new name, I love the idea of us both starting something new and creating our own family name.

I will be taking his last name legally once we return from the honeymoon.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! I thought he would have known the meaning for sure. You’re welcome, I’m glad if I helped 🙂

My maiden name will become my new middle name and I’m taking his last name 🥰

View Quoted Comment Not necessarily.
I wont be Mrs FH, and will correct those who do so (when required to)
and Mrs my name is my grandmother.
Quite happy sat here forever being a Ms

I originally automatically went for the "I want his last name" thing.

Now I am sad because I have had my last name my whole life, and in a few short months, I will no longer have it.

So I have played with the idea of hyphenating Alexis Valdez-Gonzalez. But, that would get rid of my middle name and EVERYONE calls me by my middle name.

So I have come to the conclusion that I am going to take his last name and take mine completely off. I won't be losing my identity like I thought I would. I will be gaining a part of my FH and it adds on to who I am.

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LOL. I tried explaining this to my FSIL and she didn't get it. "Don't you want the same last name as your kids?" Me: "Well, I'm Hispanic, so..."

I still haven't decided what I'm doing though!

View Quoted Comment Lol. In Latin America, when you have the same double last name as your kid, people assume he or she is your sibling! Lol

View Quoted Comment Why would it get rid of your middle name?
Plenty of people hyphenated and don’t change any of their forenames

Well I have been told I would have to get rid of my middle name?

That's good to know that if I were to hyphenate my last name- I could keep my middle name.

Thanks

As a bride/bride couple we ran into a very emotional period over this. Long story short I'm the last of my last name, only child, one aging parent living. Her family is very big (and at times too much a dominant force in my FW's decision making). We have been together for 13 years and hope to have a child. I told her I need to have someone on my "team", be my "clan", and be free to create our own traditions. I only ask that she either take my last name or not take my last name but don't hyphenate.

After a few weeks of not talking about it she said she was happy to be team <last name>

I was going to use my maiden name as a second middle name but after much debate I am not changing it. The hassle to get a new social security card, pass port, change all paperwork at work, just isn't worth it. Plus my degrees has my maiden name on it. Seems more trouble than it is worth. It doesn't change anything.

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It's a personal choice and as long as you and your FH have no problem with it, it doesn't matter what other say.

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I love it!

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That's really interesting! I'm learning so much!

View Quoted Comment You better go girl ... I ❤️It .. Dr. (who) 🤜🏾🤛🏾

Great comments!

Would you have a different opinion if your current name is from your ex-husband or ex-wife?

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I'm confused as well. Why would your middle name have to go?

I have not thought abt this but I do see why some would want to keep their last names or why they choose to hyphenate their name ... we may need to start talking about this bc we are approaching really soon ... I’m the last child so I don’t know if I should keep it going or not ... good question