I’m getting married in June of this year. My fiancé and I originally agreed to not have alcohol at our wedding. We felt it was unnecessary since neither of us will be drinking and avoid the extra cost for a bartender. My fiancé grew up Southern Baptist and his family does not drink. They do not even hang out or around people who drink. They have had alcoholism tear apart their family in the past. All but a handful of his guest he is inviting are Southern Baptist as well (church friends & family) and they do not tolerate drinking as well. My fiancé said he’s been to 5 weddings without alcohol and they’ve all been fine without it and people still had fun. He said if people show up expecting alcohol so that they can have a good time it’s their problem and they should be there to celebrate us, not for the free food or alcohol.
Now … the issue is that my family and guests are drinkers. They like to have drinks and party. I didn’t grow up Southern Baptist so I’ve been around alcohol all my life. My mother and father are the ones paying for the wedding. They had a discussion between themselves and decided they wanted to have a bar at the wedding. When my mom told me I was pissed because she was going against our initial plans. The more I talked to her about it however, the more I understand why she wants it. She thinks we should serve beer and wine after dinner as a compromise. Then people who don’t want to drink or be around it can leave. She said that people won’t want to dance if they don’t have a couple drinks in them. She took it upon herself to call the venue and ask about adding a bar to our package, and texted my fiancés mom about having a bar.
This has caused HUGE issues between my fiancé and I and my mother. My fiancé says “it’s our wedding not your moms, she doesn’t get to decide on a bar.” Meanwhile my mom says “we can’t plan the whole wedding just around his family.” This situation has put me in the spot to choose between my fiancé and mother. Neither side will budge. HELP!!!
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