Deciding on when to have a child

We got married in November and we've decided to start trying in June. We own our home, but want something that would be able to better accommodate a family, so our goal is to move before the summer. If I'm being honest, we're also taking birthdays into consideration. All of our immediate family has birthdays between November and February (not to mention the other major holidays) and we figured, since we get to pick, why not try to avoid that?

We discussed having kids before getting married. We both agreed to tie the knot before children, and we already have a prenatal consultation appointment set a month after we marry.

Personally I don’t think there will ever be a time where you’re 100% ready. Keep in mind that it could take one try or 100 try’s. The biggest thing is to make sure you’re financially ready! I have a two year old and diapers and daycare are a HUGE expense. But it’s all so worth it 😀

My husband has wanted to have a baby for several years. We started trying to have a baby since we got married, but I have been having some female problems. Trying to have a baby is a very personal decision and no one can really tell you when you are ready to try.

Lol I agree, you are never really fully ready. Our daughter is about to turn 5. We are ready for another baby so we plan to start trying after the honeymoon. Even with that said Im ready but not ready for the 2nd one lol

My husband acted like he wanted to start trying right after the wedding and now he’s acting like he’s not ready. I’m gonna have another discussion with him but I’m pushing to quit birth control this summer. I’ll be 30 and married with a good job and he’s 36 with plenty of savings, why should I still be on birth control if we’ve agreed we want two kids in the next 5 years. Hopefully we can get this negotiated.

We ended up having a "happy accident" pretty early in our relationship, so that ship has sailed for us xD. It really is a personal decision though, and no one is ever really ready no matter how much they think they are. I have noticed that a lot of women end up stressing themselves out so much over having a baby that their body freaks out and they can't conceive. So I would suggest that when you guys do decide you're as ready as you can be, just take it as it comes and whatever happens, happens.

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Best of luck! I hope you guys can get into some kind of agreement. We have one child who is 2.5 now, and I want to have another one after we get married, but he doesn't want another one, so we've been talking about it on and off.

We planned to try on the honeymoon.... Then we got excited and tried already. I could be preggers now 🤷‍♀️

We got married in August, and we're starting later this month.

Then again, I'm in my mid-30s, and we don't really have a lot of time to work with over here. Also, I volunteer at a day care once a week, help out with my "nephew," and have long been the "good with kids" one at work. So. I'm around babies a LOT and they don't faze me.

Everything from finances to maturity to "oh, hey, screaming kid in my ear doesn't make me want to strangle it" should be considered.

There's so many factors that could be going on here: age, how many kids you think you want, living situation, etc. that make this a very personal decision! But also a very exciting one

We were married March 2019, and as of now plan to start trying November/December 2020. After being disqualified from the Air Force for bad eyes, my husband got a late start to college and graduated January 2019. He joined his family business, which has always been his dream, but also made 2019 a crazy adventure for us as a couple: he started traveling regularly to VA for work at the start of the year, we got married, he moved full time to VA after the honeymoon and we lived apart for two months before I found a job and was able to move up from GA to VA too and now we've finally settled in!

The three years we lived in GA it was for my career (covering living expenses, school, building savings, etc.) and he really wants a chance to build up his career another year or so before we start bringing kids into the equation. We both grew up very traditionally and know his career is a lifelong commitment (and his desire to be in a "provider" role) while I will love staying home once there are multiple kids/it makes financial sense to do so. The plan right now is for me to stop taking birth control mid-November 2020 and see where it takes us - for reference, at that time I will be 27 and he will be 26 and we have both expressed a desire to have a large family of 3-5 kids

We got married on October 12th, 2019 and have decided to stop BC pills now! We've been discussing it and in November decided I would stop taking BC pills when I run out of refills, which is actually today! We aren't going to stress about it, it can take up to a year for a healthy couple to get pregnant, so we plan to just see what happens. Very excited though

Girl I feel ya. We don't get married until Oct 2020 and we will be 27/28 then. I am ALREADY getting the questions. We've been together 10 years and people are basically telling us to start trying now. (which....LOL heck no I already bought a wedding dress!!)

My IUD comes out March 2021 and I don't plan on getting another one or any other BC replace it. That's like 6 months after we are married and just seems like a logical transition into trying for a baby. It could happen immediately or it could take years, who knows. But by that time we should have moved into our real forever home (we currently own a home but I'm not in love with it). Like everyone says, you're never REALLY ready apparently. I guess we'll find out!