Deciding factors on bridesmaids?

I included my closest friends. That's it, no other factors.

I didn't have any trouble at all actually. I think it's just one of those things where imagine your wedding day.. who is there beside you in your bridal party? If it's all four or really just those two then that's it.

I didn't have any trouble either. I chose the women who have been my closest friends and with whom I couldn't imagine not sharing this day.

My advice is to pick people who will be a part of your future and not just people who you have a long history with.
I had a friend (been friends since grade 1) confront me for not selecting her as a bridesmaid. We have drifted apart severely in the past 5+ years and I no longer consider her a close friend. She mentioned she thought she would still be chosen since we have been "friends forever". For me, length of friendship does not equate to quality of friendship or closeness. I understood where she was coming from but ultimately I selected my closest friends.

I opted for no bridal party. We didn’t feel it was necessary and didn’t want to have that extra bit of planning to worry about. Just do whatever you’re comfortable with. The BM and GM do not need to match in number, so choose whomever you want. There’s no wrong answer.

I asked the women that I couldn't imagine NOT having beside me. One of them, sadly, will be deployed, so it's only 3 and my brother (man of honor)

I don't think you should choose people just to have an arbitrary number. But that's just me

Hello dear ! I have a good 5 female friends that are dear to my heart and some not so much. I decided to keep my bridal party as only first cousins and I’m truly happy with that. My only sibling and sister is my Maid of Honor . Therefore , nobody can get jealous about why they weren’t chosen. Also, my cousins will be super 500^ supportive and not making it be about them. Choose wisely !

I personally didn't have trouble picking my bridal party. I picked five ladies I couldn't imagine not standing up there with me. I'm an only child so I picked two of my cousins who I consider like my sisters, my two college roommates, and my future sister in law. I had close high school friends I considered but when I moved away for college I didn't stay close with them so I didn't think it was necessary to have them and they will just be guests at the wedding. I agree with other posts you should pick people who are lifelong friends and not just add people to have a certain number. Best of luck!

Thank you all for the feedback! I greatly appreciate it. I’m not trying to reach a number, it’s just that the one is a friend I have history with but don’t talk to much now. The other is a friend that I really like but don’t know if I can say I’m as close with as the others. So I’m struggling to figure out what to do with them!

Ask the other 2 to Hostess or Read something.

I included my best friends and his sister!

Choose people the people who supports your relationship and is excited about your upcoming wedding because it will matter. Some friends change during weddings not sure why, its literally a celebration of growth in your life. So I agree with others choose wisely. The wedding day itself goes by fast, but the planning leading up to it, the collaborating and doing things with people you love is what you will remember just as much!

Your nearest dearest most supportive people at the time you are getting married.


Generally your best friend and your closest people after that. These are *not* random acquaintances or people whom parents pressure you to include (in-laws or siblings you are not close to) or you haven't contacted since high school or someone whose wedding you were in. Also do not pick anyone prior to 6 months before the wedding since relationships can change and the boards are full of people asking how to get someone to step down.