December wedding - postpone or no?

I think it all depends on where you are. Our wedding is in FL on 10/10 and have no plans to cancel or postpone.

If your venue is offering a full refund, I'd consider finding a new venue.

It depends on where your state is with restrictions. Like my state is not even allowing receptions at venues, and gatherings can only be 25 or less people indoors. So no big wedding for us in October. December is kind of far out still, but consider things like ordering invitations soon - it would kind of suck to sink all that money into them only to reschedule. Plus as you said, you haven't had any taste testings or things, so even if it opens in the next couple months, it'll be crunch time for you guys. That was something I wanted to avoid, so we ended up making the decision to postpone our 10/3 wedding at end of June. I would have just been stressed to plan something in such a short amount of time.

We are still having a minimony on 10/3 where we will get married in the church with about 15 people total. Then have a catered dinner in FILs' house/backyard. If we had been able to have a bachelorette party, we definitely would have done it still but just couldn't because of COVID, so we will try to do something after the minimony.

Personally, I'd take the refund while I could lol there's too much uncertainty with finances at this point and many venues/vendors can't or won't refund folks after a certain point, whether it be cancelling or postponing.

Hope this helps!

That super sucks and is very stressful! I agree with Lisa and Margaret. If they are offering you a full refund, take it, and possibly find a new venue. My concern would be not taking the refund and then in 2 months, they have nothing left to refund. This concern stems from my venue and a very different situation, but I think it is a reality that these places slowly run out of money. I know covid has made things difficult, but me personally, I don’t like the idea of 2 separate ceremony/reception dates. That’s just me, and I don’t want to plan 2 days lol. I have postponed our wedding to next year, simply because I am not ready or willing to compromise what I want. Good luck with everything! 💕

After reading SO many posts from couples who've lost deposits and/or full payments due to Covid cancellations, if I were you I'd jump at the offer of a full refund ASAP. Depending on where you are located, it's hard to imagine things will be so much better by December that the odds are good that you'll be able to have the wedding you've planned and dreamed of, so personally, I'd be grateful to get your money back. If an option is a small backyard wedding, I'd guess you could pull that off without a ton of intricate planning. This week there are been a couple great BAMs from couples who executed home-based minimonies in a very short timeframe, so if you decide to get married on your original date you should be able to pull that off. I'm so sorry and understand your disappointment & stress, but it sounds like your venue is making you a great offer. Good luck!

Our venue also was unable to hold our wedding and offered us a refund. We went back and forth with ideas on having a smaller guest list and reception at our ranch, but ultimately, decided against it to just keep everyone safe. We'll be having a minimony on our original date with our officiant and a witness, then going on a minimoon. We've canceled our "big wedding" entirely and will revisit and re-plan once it's safe to do so. Since none of us know when we can have a "normal" wedding, I didn't want to be stuck having to postpone for a second time.

Good luck to you as well! Who knew we all picked the worst year to get married! lol

Fellow 12/12/20 dater here!! If your venue is offering a full refund at this point, I would take it and make alternative plans so you can move along with your planning. Our venue is currently open and holding events but within state limits, we are hoping that by our wedding date things will be "close" to normal or we can have 75% capacity. Good luck!