For anyone who needs to hear this, you're not alone. The wedding-planning process is insane and unnerving. There's so much loaded into the stereotype of being a "bridezilla" that the wedding industry and wedding vendors feed into it to try and get you to crack. I just want to tell you that you are not the crazy ones. They are just trying to make you feel crazy.
Having been in planning mode for longer than I wanted due to covid postponement, I'm now less than two weeks away from my big day and I have reflected a lot on this process.
All of us in the throws of wedding planning have encountered the "wedding package". This is a set group of services that vendors offer to a couple getting married, and most of them are not needed or wanted. I had a wedding planner offer to officiate my wedding as well, I have a DJ offer to provide A/V and live music for my wedding, I've had the venue include catering. None of these things are wrong on their own, but most vendors at least that I've talked to will not let me pick and choose services that I need. I already have chairs and tables provided by my venue. Too bad! The florist provides those as part of their fee. It's just a constant and unrelenting negotiation of what we actually want or need at the wedding, with every single vendor offering much more than we want as part of their "wedding package" at a price that will make you go crazy, especially if you're on a budget. But if you try to haggle? If you try to argue with their price or reject their services? BRIDEZILLA!
I hate the lies that vendors have told me in order to sell their product or service. "Oh, it's only $20 more for a square table than round table, and the square tables are more trendy for weddings these days." Actual price difference of the square table? $100 more per table. Or, "our musician is so talented. He can play any music you want." What is the reality? Like any actual human being, he has limits and can only play a set repetoire. Why can't anyone in this industry just be honest to brides? But if you bring up that they are lying? You're a BRIDEZILLA. The whole wedding industry does not want to be regulated or revised by responsible brides.
I would give several of my vendors poor reviews on this website if I thought it mattered. It won't effect the inertia of the wedding industry of the vendors on this website. If the post is allowed to stay up, I can already predict that they would respond to my review saying that I was making unreasonable and irrational requests. I'm not. I refuse to be manipulated by wedding vendors and I refuse to believe their lies. Does this make me a bridezilla? Well yes, they can say that about me. But I don't believe it. I'm not broken, it's the whole wedding industry that is broken.
So back to what I want to say. I don't know you, but you're probably not acting like a bridezilla. Wanting reasonable service for a reasonable amount of money does not make you a bridezilla. Wanting the truth from your vendors is not being a bridezilla.