Debating on changing plans

Yes! Our wedding is 12 days away and
People are suddenly rescinding their rsvps. Let me preface this by saying invites, delay the dates, etc all went out since covid started. This is not something they didn’t know about Before 12 days out. It seems like etiquette rules are out the window bc of covid. But the icing on the cake was today when FH brother told us he won’t even be coming (there are 5 boys in the family). He’s a groomsman and his daughter is a flower girl. My mom spent HOURS sewing a flower girl dress for her, we have groomsman gifts and flower girl gifts bought. Not to mention she’s 8 and was going to be the “help” for the two others who are 2. I literally replaced a flower girl today. I almost just waved my white flag but I can’t leave two, 2 yr olds to their own devices. At this point, I don’t care who comes, i just want to marry FH and move on with life.

View Quoted Comment Ugh, that sounds like a nightmare! And 12 days away from your wedding too!! We also just don’t want to pay the remaining balances on our vendors (which are due 15-30 days prior to the wedding) and then have tons of people back out at last second. I will be PISSED if we lose that much money because people want to rescind RSVPs 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Yes girl! (Well not the family hissy fit😂) we just postponed ours to next year because of all the restrictions we don't want to have at the wedding. Ours was planned for October 17th, but at this point having 1/3 to maybe 1/2 of our planned guest list and possibility of no dancing, or having to wear masks is just NOT what we pictured by any means.
We did try to hold off as long as we could in hopes things would start to improve, but it's just not going to be possible.
Plus at this point with us being able to not plan at full speed, it feels like everything would be rushed and messy for an August bridal shower and October wedding :/ Theres always next year🤷

IDK, December is a ways off at this point, but it is a lot of stress to plan for something and then have to change it. We mailed out invitations and then decided to scale down/postpone etc.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, it is several months away but we also don’t want to spend a ton of $$ on a day that is not how we envisioned. We would rather cut way back on the guest list, instead of dealing with constantly changing restrictions.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, totally agree with you. If we decide to cut our list, we are not going to worry with doing a reception in the future. Our family/friends are so spread out all over the country, and the only thing I care about at this point is being married 😂

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That makes sense...probably better off to decide now than closer to the actual date.