Debating on canceling the wedding.

I don’t know, weddings are a once in a lifetime event, people typically place more importance on the formal invitation to a wedding than an invite to a bbq. It sucks they can’t even decline but I do believe weddings are taken more seriously. They might surprise you.

If you want to scale back your plans that’s fine too, have the wedding you want! But I wouldn’t change my plans based on something that hasn’t happened yet. Have you talked to them about it? See if you generate interest, if people don’t seem to care then you have your answer.

That is up to you. There is nothing wrong with having a more intimate wedding to save yourself from possible disappointment. But they might show up for you at a big event like a wedding. However, we did have a lot of no shows at our wedding, super annoying. We invited 245, had about 162 RSVP yes, and ended up with about 36 no shows.

Many people are more inclined to attend big life changing events like weddings over birthday parties or BBQs. It's totally fine to want a smaller, more intimate wedding, but I wouldn't change your original plan just for this reason. I would assume that, at 90 days out, you already have a lot of money invested and most deposits are non-refundable, so I would keep that in mind.

Victoria dont cancel your wedding! if you are worried some people wont show up then, like mentioned above, have an intimate wedding. invite only those who you know will be there for you, only those who matter! you will enjoy yourself much more than if you planned a big wedding and get all these no-shows. but also, as mentioned above, people more more inclined to attend major life events... either way your wedding day you should be surrounded by your friends and family to celebrate your love. if you are worried about certain people maybe they should be invited in the first place? good luck!

People are bad at rsvp'ing in general now a days but when it comes to weddings, trust me when I say people make a much bigger effort for it.

Weddings a birthdays are very different things. People don't put the same amount of importance on a birthday as they do a wedding. Most likely when you invite everyone to your wedding they will make a plan to attend.

Of course if you think having a courthouse wedding with an intimate dinner is something you'd enjoy more then by all means...go to it!