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Dear wedding party please pay on time!!

Monica, on March 6, 2020 at 12:23 PM

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We don’t expect much from our wedding party just a few tasks and appearances like pay for your dress/tux and show up to the bridal shower & wedding rehearsal and to the actual wedding. I dont know what it is. Are people lazy? Do they not have the money? Do they not care about being responsible?...




We don’t expect much from our wedding party just a few tasks and appearances like pay for your dress/tux and show up to the bridal shower & wedding rehearsal and to the actual wedding.


I dont know what it is. Are people lazy? Do they not have the money? Do they not care about being responsible? We are having a hard time to get people to be on top of their ish!!



My bridesmaid just called me stressing out because she just told me she didn’t order her dress back in October when we all went dress shopping but instead she purchased late December (which I think means after Christmas) Back in October the expected delivery date was the middle of February for my April 4th wedding.

Well she said in December she called after placing the order and was told that her dress would arrive beginning of March (the other girls dresses took 3-4months) so there was no reason to rush the dress. But she’s telling me she found out her dress wont be in until JULY.



I have a feeling she didn’t purchase the dress until this week because according to Davids Bridal website it says estimated delivery will be July 7 if purchased today. I have a feeling she probably thought the dress could be rushed but because its a custom color thats not in stock it will take a while to ship.



I knew in October she was going through some personal things and I never expect my wedding to be more important than anyone’s personal life. But come on! Im disappointed she didn’t come to me and tell me she couldn’t afford the dress or for whatever reason she couldn’t purchase. I would have bought it for her and asked her to pay me back later.

At first I didn’t mind for my BMS to wear different dresses but all dresses be the same color. But everyone picked the same dress. I don’t really want to have 3 girls in the same dress & color and another girl in either the same dress&different color or different dress&different color.



None of the davids bridals in all of Northern to Southern California have the dress in stock. I also dont think im willing to hunt down a dress that matches the same color from store to store whether we go to Macys or nordstroms or wherever. Also my BM lives in LA which is 5hours away. So it is what it is but im disappointed.



NOW TO THE GROOMSMEN

My FH groomsmen are taking so long to get their tuxes. The one groomsmen that hasnt been fitted yet is getting cut because now we have only 3 BMs so since he doesn’t have a tux we wont have uneven numbers. His best man Barely paid for his tux last week after getting fitted back in January. Another groomsmen that got fitted at the same time just SIMPLYY needs to pay for his tux rental online (we are using the Black Tux) FH feels frustrated because hes tired of asking. I reached out to the last groomsmen’s girlfriend so she can push her man to pay. I gave her a deadline that it has to be paid by next week.


WE HAVE LESS THAN 30days!! COME ON PPL GET IT TOGETHER PLEASEtenor.gif










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    Shauna ·
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    David's Bridal is usually REALLY good. They had my wedding dress in in 2 and a half weeks and we did all my bridesmaids dresses on Feb 16th and the mom dresses on Feb 17. The moms have their dresses already and half of my bridesmaids do too. I'm hopeful that she will get it in time but I'm sorry to hear that she put you in the position to stress!

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    Monica ·
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    I did find one that’s slightly similar on amazon but because of the shape of the bodice its still noticeable that its not the same dress. I ultimately decided if anyone is to wear a dress thats different than the rest it should be my MOH not another bridesmaid
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    Monica ·
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    I just confirmed with her. Because its a color that is Not in stock and has to be custom ordered, thats why it takes a while to be made. She said customer service confirmed that she will NOT receive it in time before April 4th.
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    Carnysha ·
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    Going through the same thing. My soon to be sis-in-law literally caught an attitude and cussed me out after giving the ladies a reminder to get their dress. I'm to the point that I wish they all just drop out.
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    Monica ·
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    Oh no. Was it just ur SIL that didn’t get her dress or all of them? How much time do they have. Thats not cool. Try not to take it personal even tho thats hard to do, that attitude she gave u is a reflection of herself. People get defensive if they feel like a weak spot got touched. Im sure the dress isnt the actual issue, but thats for her to work out and its not your problem. Sorry she snapped and made u feel like this.


    My BM confirmed with me yesterday that customer service told her that it is NOT expected to get the dress in time. There’s another dress that’s similar on amazon but I thought about it like you know what No. its not my fault she wasn’t responsible. I reminded her my MOH reminded her and it sucks but oh well. I had bought all my BMs a gift box for gifts. Now im wondering do I still give it to her as a birthday present now that shes not a bm. Or do i keep it
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    Yes it was just her but out of four of my bridesmaids my moh was the only one to get her dress the day we went dress shopping. Now the day after my future SIL cussed me out she ordered her dress🙄. The other two i'm still waiting on. They just said they're working on it. My wedding is in July so Davids Bridal is saying if they order their dress now it should be ready by May/June. Idk.. im just frustrated.
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    Monica ·
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    Yea that is frustrating. We went dress shopping mid October. My SIL was the only one to order her dress right away. The other girls ordered theirs in November. Hopefully your girls order it soon. You can also go online to enter in the details for the dress and it will tell you estimated delivery time right on the screen. Im the type of person that doesn’t want to be pushy or nagging which is why we did everything in advance so they had enough time. But I get frustrated when we are running out of time & stuff needs to be done. I am now reminding my girls to get their dress altered in time. If I were you I would double check online the estimated delivery and then remind them again in 2weeks if
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    Yeah that's what i'll do. Hopefully these ladies will get it together soon. Thanks for listening, it's nice to vent to yall, it takes some stress off.
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    Monica ·
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    Yes definitely helps. Also I would take a screenshot of the estimated delivery just in case they give you pushback you can show u aren’t being pushy its just that there seriously is a deadline or the dress wont come in time. Hope you wont have to tho!


    We have a groomsmen who needs to pay by next week we have already reminded him and I really HOPE i dont have to follow up againn.
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  • Carnysha
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    And its less than 30 days away!? Geesh!
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    Yess girl! Talk about anxiety. Like what are they waiting for. 27days left.
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