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Paola
Devoted December 2018

Dear fatherless brides/groom

Paola, on August 2, 2018 at 4:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 39

This won't be a " I need advice post" rather an encouragement post. Many people will relate others won't and that's OK. This post is specifically for brides/grooms who have had their father walk away from their lives.

After getting engaged I was so excited and soon my excitement got squashed by the looming "Oh I wont have my father walk me down and give me away" And I actually became a bit bitter, I felt like the joy of being engaged was being robbed from me I was so angry! My closest friends couldn't relate and while they were being loving the constant question of "Are you doing okay?" became a trigger.

Here's the harsh truth, we don't get a Hallmark like life. Circumstances in our life won't always conclude in a happy ending and family issues sometimes never get better. BUT here's the beauty in this new chapter in our life we have found our best friend, our lifelong partner in crime the person whom you're going to create a whole life with, a family, memories and traditions! we've been blessed with our loves and that's something that not everyone finds in this lifetime.

Focus, on the people who ARE still in your life, who have been rooting for your since the day they met you, because all those teary eyed faces that will be looking at you on your wedding day have always wanted THE BEST for you, and they love you so much!

It's okay to grieve the loss of that relationship but it's not okay for that to rob you from your joy. Hugs to all, and best wishes for your marriages. Smiley heart

39 Comments

Latest activity by Paola, on August 3, 2018 at 2:15 PM
  • Kelsey Brielle
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    Kelsey Brielle ·
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    When I got engaged I was actually ecstatic about the fact that I would walk MYSELF down the aisle. I have grown into a beautiful young lady without that presence there and I am proud of that. You are absolutely correct, enough is enough of feeling guilty and sad about a relationship that was never there. Thank you for sharing this post and I hope other brides and grooms really take some positivity away from it.

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  • Erin
    Dedicated October 2018
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    So. Much. Love. for this post.

    It's nice to know I'm not alone
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  • Lex
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    It’s nice to know I’m not the only one. My dad lives overseas and basically told me weddings are stupid and mine wouldn’t be any different. I cried a lot over that, but it’s alright.
    We’ll be surrounded by people who love us, so that’s okay.
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  • Danielle
    Expert March 2019
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    Same here...I am excited to walk myself down the aisle. My mom suggested a couple of random relatives to maybe walk with me, but I see no need.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    My hubby & I walked together, which fit us better at this point in our lives. No regrets. It was sweet & comforting to walk with my BFF. Smiley heart

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  • Paola
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    That's amazing! there's beauty in breaking tradition.

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  • Paola
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    Paola ·
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    You're definitely not alone! Smiley heart

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  • Paola
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    I am so sorry you had to go through that, it's definitely hard to have deal with a broken relationship. You're not alone! you'll have a beautiful wedding and the only person who's missing out is your dad.

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  • Paola
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    That is so sweet! and it makes sense.

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  • Jeskawo
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    My dad is not in my life either, but that's by my choice and I am at peace with it. I wish him well, but he won't be missed and I know the day will be just as special without him there. My man and I will walk down the aisle together and that is exactly who we are. Sending love to you! xoxox

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  • Paola
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    Paola ·
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    That's amazing! my mom will actually be walking me down the aisle, and i'm so excited.


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  • K
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    Definitely not alone! ❤️ I don’t know my biological father and my stepdad and my mom divorced several years ago and he kicked us all out including my newborn son at the time. It’s rough but much love to you.
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  • Paola
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    I totally understand this. That is so beautiful! you two will be walking into your forever together, LOVE IT!

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  • Paola
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    Ugh I am so sorry! I hope you're in a much better place now. Smiley heart


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  • K
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    How sweet, I’ve considered having our 3 year old son walk me but maybe they both could
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  • Gen
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    Thank you for sharing! My dad left my life and we haven’t spoken since I was 15, and I don’t intend to ever speak to him again. I honestly have always imagined that my mom and brother would both walk with me, and that’s exactly what’s happening Smiley smile
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  • Erica
    Savvy September 2018
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    My dad has been incarcerated since I was 2. He would love to walk me down but due to his senseless actions he missed the opportunity. I’ve been blessed to have many other male figures in my life, my uncles, grandfather, older male cousins. My two uncles are walking me down.
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  • K
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    I’m here if you ever need to talk. My brothers been locked up for several years and had 45 years left. thoughts and prayers are with you
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  • Erica
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    Your so sweet, thank you!
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  • J
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    Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for the encouragement!
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