Since I was a kid, I've always struggled with rude, stuck up girls. Now that my wedding is coming up, that definitely is getting to me.
I am a very down to earth person. When I was in high school, I didn't look like everyone else. I grew late and couldn't afford expensive clothes, but went to a very preppy school. I was always bullied on the way I looked and decided then that I would never judge people on their financial status, the way they looked or the clothes they wore. I've tried my best to be this way.
When I got to college, I blossomed and started owning the way I looked (straightening my hair,etc.), so I started getting more attention. I came across some rude, stuck up women who would spread gossip behind my back, try to get people not to talk to me, etc.. I avoided them and spent time with girls who were down to earth, nice, didn't judge me on the way I looked and loved me for me.
Each chapter, I've come across these type girls. The red flag goes up and I avoid them and spend time with kind people. Recently, I've come across this in my fiance's family. I don't dress up much and girls have ganged up in my fiance's family. They have been making rude comments about the way I dress, my confidence, my friends and my family. I like the way I look, even if i dress simply. I think I'm pretty, but they don't want me to feel that way. They've put down my friends and family, trying to say they aren't welcome or important. They've said something is wrong with me straight to my fiance's face, when I have done nothing to them and have minded my own business. In fact, I've tried to help them, and they've tried to hurt me. I've cried hours and hours on how this has made me feel. My fiance told me they are jealous, but sometimes I'm not so sure.
I've beaten myself up so many times because of girls like this - who want me to feel bad. Each time I feel dumb because initially I may kindly help them, but then they turn on me and do very hurtful things. My mind immediately goes "something is wrong with me" when it may be them. They show on their face they want me to feel inferior and bad. I tell myself they're right sometimes, and I know this is where I go wrong. But it's hard for me to deal with this.
Any advice on dealing with these rude, condescending girls? I can't stand women who put down other women. The whole world would be a better place if we all just were nicer to each other. And sometimes, I feel I'm alone on this because I'm the target a lot of the time.
