Dealing with others opinion

Yup. I definitely did. There was a lot of saying, "I understand, but this is our decision" ... And minimizing how much communication I did around the wedding. Boundaries were my friend.

I basically shut my FMIL and her drama llama self down with “Are YOU paying for any of it? No?? Okay, then, buh-bye now” and hung up. NOT recommending this lol.

I have told people we are doing the wedding traditional & elegant but with a touch of Whimsy!
We have all under control, thanks. And we want it to be a surprise the day of.!

Stop telling people stuff! Just say oh we want it to be a romantic surprise

Unfortunately everyone will have an opinion on your decisions for the wedding. All you can do is say that you appreciate the idea, but you've already made your decision or prefer your decision. I just ignore most of it now. I usually end up changing the subject away from the wedding.

Unfortunately this is what happens if you tell people what you are doing. I just didn’t offer up much information to avoid that problem.

Thank you for your advise ladies. I just have to stay strong and not let it affect me or my decision making. It just sucks because one of those people is some very close to me and I thought it would be different especially since it’s my wedding and not theirs but in some ways it feels like they are trying to make the day about them instead of my fiancé and I.

What I’ve been doing lately is agree with everyone and pretend that their opinions are important and do the opposite secretly. Lol as long as your not keeping secrets from FH your okay. Lol

I've personally started to get a little snippy with people interjecting their opinions, basically saying, "well good thing this is not your wedding, isn't it?" I used to be a lot nicer, but after a while with people interjecting their opinions, it's annoying. I used to say " Thanks for your opinion, but that really doesn't match my vision for my wedding. I will take your opinion into consideration, though." And then I just don't. Sometimes, i'll tell them that they're making wedding planning harder on me, but only when they're being pushy about something.

Ultimately, I had to start telling myself that it's MY wedding, and FH and MY opinions are the only ones that really matter. Fortunately for me, When I ask FH for an opinion, he only wants to make "this or that" choices, so I narrow down choices to like 3 or 4 options, usually.

Congrats on your engagement first and foremost! We had a sit down with the main players early in (my parents and his parents) to explain our vision and how we would be making decisions. Basically we told them we would welcome any help and take their opinions under advisement but all final decisions were ours. Also, from the start we told them any money they donate would be considered a "campaign contribution", yes we literally used that term, but that did not mean they could make decisions about anything at all. It's working very well for us so far. Good luck!

I'm sorry that people are taking away that excitement for you. I've had that happen. I try to ignore it or I just don't talk to that person. For the most part everyone has been really excited about everything though. I actually have the opposite problem with my sister. I'll try to get her opinion on bridemaids dresses and she says she loves them all and she'll wear whatever I want her to. But I want her to have an opinion and tell me if she doesn't like something. Lol

“No wallet, no opinion.”
This is my favorite. It’s nice to get input from everyone, but it is you and FS day. Do what makes you happy, and everyone else can deal. Don’t let their opinions affect you or make you second guess your decisions.

I've dealt with this. It's common. I had to really put my foot down with a certain someone and although she was not happy with my firmness, there hasn't been any issues since. So I don't regret standing up for myself (and my fiancée). I'm also offering up less information to this person so that there's less to be opinionated about.

Just don't tell anyone any details at all. If they ask, just say "you'll see at the wedding." If they offer unsolicited advice or comments, tell them "thanks, but we have our plan set in motion and we are happy." People will always have something to say. And as much as we want to say "Shut up and just show up and enjoy it already," we just have to field the criticism with a smile and a brush off lol