Daughter being Bride Zilla over MOB dress

I know you can't tell her to go to hell, but I'd say something close. (As an aside, I'm, watching Mildred Pierce right now, so I'm not as sympathetic to daughter-zillas as I might be....)

Brides don't get to tell moms what to wear. Brides get to be thrilled that their moms can be there because there are many brides who don't have that privilege.

Wear that dress; it's pretty, it's appropriate, and you love it. The end.

And tell her to find a florist. You don't want to be working on her wedding day.

And good luck with your surgery! You want to be dancing up a storm at that wedding!

That's beautiful and I know she's your daughter but you get to wear whatever you want ESPECIALLY since you're doing things for her. And plus, you're buying it. Buy what you want.

What did she object to about that dress? It is beautiful! Wear it.

I don't want to judge your daughter but she's being very selfish. You need to wear what you feel comfortable with and I personally think that dress is pretty!!

Best of luck to you on your surgery. Well wishes coming your way.

Btw- this is my mom and her dress. We weren't today. She looks amazing and I'm so happy for her.

You're dress is awesome

Take it from me. She is being rude. My FMIL bought a dress in the same color as my bridesmaids but she is in love and I don't care. I can't go around and approve every guests wedding attire. Wear what you would like.

I support everyone saying don't do her flowers. It is a lot of work to do for someone who is acting a fool to their own mother!!!!! Whether you're arranging them or paying I would have a come to Jesus and bring her back down to reality!!!!

"It is hard for me to understand you being upset when I followed your directions; the dress is a dark shade of blue than the bridesmaids. This is the dress I am wearing.

I understand planning a wedding is stressful, but I feel that you are not treating me with respect. Please keep in mind that I am your mother and did as you asked, both in terms of the dress and doing the flowers for your bouquet/wedding."

That's what I'd say, at least.

If she cannot own up to her mistakes, I'd tell her that you're no longer comfortable doing the wedding flowers due to her behavior. Put that maternal foot down strong.

And honestly? If she's going to flip out on you for following her vague directions for your dress, I can only imagine what she'd do if she didn't like the flowers...

Good luck with the back surgery!

That dress is beautiful and totally appropriate for the MOB. If you feel beautiful in it, nothing else matters. (Especially if you're paying for it!)

Best of luck with your surgery. I hope you have a speedy recovery.

What did she not like about the dress? Did she explain her reasoning? I think it's easy to say that you're in the right, but we really can't know without more info. I can think of a few situations where she would be right to tell you not to wear it:

- That is her wedding dress in a different color.

- It's showing something inappropriate (doesn't look like it from the photo).

- It's the bridesmaids' dress.

- It's a black tie or super casual wedding and she's worried you'll look/feel out of place.

I wonder if something is bothering her that isn't the dress though. Perhaps she and FH are having issues right now? Have you guys been fighting about the wedding in general? It just seems like the dress probably isn't the root of the problem...

Thats a very pretty dress! I bet it looks gorgeous on you and i agree with everyone it is appropriate but the flower thing that is all your decision.

As a bride myself like your daughter i will say its rude to be like this towards you as you are her mother. But at the end of the day im sure she loves you and eventhough i know this is not an excuse im sure she is a bit stressed just as i am but no reason to be rude to her mother.

It's a beautiful dress! Wear it, and don't do your daughter's flowers. You're a guest of honor who should be enjoying the day, not working for free. I hope you have a speedy recovery after surgery.

Just get the dress. Unless it's a hoochie dress. And, do not EVEN with the threats of "I won't do this if they do/don't do this". Eyeroll. Classic passive aggressive MOB behavior that is posted on here all the time. Be the better person

I think the dress you chose is lovely and appropriate for your daughter's wedding. I would keep it. Good luck with your surgery.

Keep the dress it will be perfect.

Prayers on your surgery.

Keep the dress. It's beautiful, and she's being ridiculous.

Fellow MOB here. You offered for her to come with and she declined even though she had ample notice. You love the dress and that's what matters. It's a beautiful gown! As for the flowers, if it were me I know I would go ahead and do them because I said I would, and I always follow through on my promises. However, she should realize what a gift you are and be concerned more for your health than what you're wearing to the wedding. Best of luck to you on a speedy recovery. ((hugs))

I let my mom pick her own dress out. She decided she wanted to do my flowers as well, and she has helped out so much for my wedding. She knew what my colors were and I wanted her to be able to wear a dress she liked and felt comfortable in. If she doesn't like your dress then she should have gone with you like she had originally planned. ( maybe done with you first to your appointment, then went and did her registry stuff). I think it looks beautiful and think you should keep it. Especially since you put money down on it already.