Dates of Bridal party

They don't typically use the bridal party transportation, but that's up to you. The head table is also your preference. I think it's polite to have significant others at the head table because who wants to have to eat separate, but the decision is ultimately yours.

I have never seen the dates sit at the head table if they are not included in the wedding at all. That may be a regional thing but it just seems weird to me to put them up there. Same with the limo. That is your time to enjoy celebrating with your absolute closest friends and family, that's why they were or were not included in the wedding party to begin with.

Typically, SOs of bridal party won't be in the limo (unless you want to be nice). As far as table seating: that is up to you entirely. Some people opt for just the bridal party, others don't want to split up couples for dinner. Another option, which is what I'm doing and has become popular, is having a sweetheart table with just you and your fiance. We didn't want to split our bridal party from their SOs (I know I would always like to sit with FH), but we also didn't want to have a comically large table with us, our bridal party, their SOs, and our parents because that would be 22 people all together. There are tons of ways you could do this, so it's really personal preference.

This is all preference honestly. I can't speak to the transportation portion of this question, but as far as a head table goes at dinner... I wouldn't split the wedding party from their date/boyfriend or girlfriend/spouse/family, whatever. I also wouldn't want to have all of them sitting at the head table with me either. Maybe consider doing a sweetheart table for just you and your FH instead? We are actually doing a hybrid. We knew wanted the MOH (my sister) and the Best Man (his brother) to sit with us, so it will just be FH and myself, MOH and her boyfriend, and BM and his wife sitting with us at the head table. Their children will not be present at the wedding either, so that won't be an issue.

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I agree with this 100%. I don't think they should get the special spotlight if they weren't in the bridal party to begin with.

I think it’s always best to seat people with their dates for dinner, whether you choose a big head table with everyone or opt for a sweetheart table with just the 2 of you together and your bp say at regular tables (either together or among their own friends). We had a couple dates-of-bridal party members who didn’t know anyone else at the wedding — id hate to have put them in an awkward situation sitting alone with strangers. We chose a sweetheart table partially for that reason, and then it was just easier than choosing who to sit with. I was REALLY glad we did because we spent *maybe* 10 minutes total seated , basically as long as it took us to eat and after that we were in motion . I would’ve felt bad seating only our wedding party, who didn’t all know eachother, at our table then leaving them all alone together while we ran around visiting guests and such.

What you use a limo for is different for everyone. If you’re transporting BP from getting ready area to ceremony site, that wouldn’t traditionally include SOs, especially if everyone is responsible for getting themselves home at the end of the night (the SOs drive themselves and then have a car on site to get home).

Like everyone else said, it's really up to you, but I think the "traditional" thing is for transportation and dinner to be just the bridal party.

One suggestion though for dinner - I'm seating all of the dates of my bridal party together. FH and I decided to have a BBQ/potluck with the whole party and their SOs before (prob when the groomsmen go for tux fitting) so that they have a chance to mingle and know each other a bit before the wedding.

Typically dates aren't transported with the party due to everyone getting ready. Would you want a boyfriend waiting at the hair salon or in the hotel room while make up is being done?

As for head tables, or bridal party tables, then yes. It would be rude to separate them from their dates.

If you have a head table, they should sit with their dates. Our bridal parties dates are not traveling to the venue with them. The bridesmaids go at 10 AM and the groomsmen at 2 PM, then all the other guests come at 5 PM but we are providing transportation for all guests.