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Just Said Yes September 2020

Dates- Long vs Short Engagement

Future Mrs. B ❤️, on June 1, 2019 at 12:38 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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Ok so here’s the run down- I originally told everyone that we were waiting to get married until May 2021. This was mostly because I wanted to make everyone happy who thought we should be waiting longer. My FH and I will have been together 3 yrs in December, but we’ve known since the first date that this was it. It was always about waiting until “socially acceptable” to get married, having full time jobs w/ benefits, etc.
Now, we had to slash May 2021 because my sister is graduating college and my brother is graduating HS that month. She suggested September of 2021. I suggested we bump it to September 2020. Am I crazy? My mom isn’t as freaked as I thought she would be. I just cannot imagine waiting over 2 years to get married. Especially if it’s only because it’s what other people want to happen. Advice???

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Latest activity by Becca, on June 2, 2019 at 2:50 PM

January 2019
MOB So Cal · on June 1, 2019 at 12:55 PM
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From what you've written I'm a little unclear about the specific factors that are influencing your timing. Personally, I think the right time to get married is when a couple is ready both in terms of their relationship and the practical aspects of adulthood. I think married people need to be able to fully support themselves. If you're emotionally ready and can support yourselves, then when you get married depends on how soon you can afford the type of wedding you want. It costs very little to elope at a courthouse. But, it can easily cost tens of thousands of dollars to hold a larger, more traditional wedding & reception. If you want a bigger wedding, do you currently have the money? If not, how long will it take you to save enough? Once you've figured that out, the date is purely your preference. Good luck!
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 1, 2019 at 12:58 PM
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Get married when you guys are ready to and not because you are afraid of the judgement you would get from a short engagement.
There are pros and cons to a short and long engagement though however. long engagements are ideal if it works better for your personal timelines and if you need more time and money saved to plan. But I know how impatient it can feel when it's too long. But trust me, time with someone flies when you're engaged. Next thing you know your selected wedding date is here.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on June 1, 2019 at 7:16 PM
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I don't think you're rushing - the new date is over a year away. Sadly, you can never make everybody happy, so do what feels right for you and FH! After all, the marriage will be just you and him
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Kelly · on June 1, 2019 at 9:40 PM
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My fiance and I were together three years in December and are getting married Oct 2020. I don't see why you would wait until 2021 unless money was an issue
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Devoted September 2019
Amber · on June 1, 2019 at 11:02 PM
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I got engaged in December and my wedding is 9.1.19 I only gave myself 7 Months to plan. So far so good
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Devoted May 2020
Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:59 PM
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We originally planned for 2021 but decided to do it next year... No reason to wait that long if you can actually do it the way you want it earlier.
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Expert July 2019
Becca · on June 2, 2019 at 2:50 PM
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Bump it up! Why wait? If you guys have been together, your parents are supportive of the marriage and you have been living together, why make yourselves wait over 2 years?
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