Date options for December 2019 wedding

I'm Jewish and I'd probably pass on either of those dates. You're making it expensive and difficult (regardless of which day) for your guests to attend. If the date is so important to you to the exclusion of the comfort and ease of your guests, I'd elope.

With any holiday wedding you run the risk of guests not being able to attend. However, I would say Sunday the 22nd, because hopefully it will eliminate most of the time off work that people will need to take.

I completely understand having a vision for what you want, but agree, depending on your guests, this is potentially so inconvenient. It might be different if they were all local and it was just one more celebration to roll into a holiday weekend, but if 75% are traveling, I'd really think about how important it is to you that those people attend. If your thought process is honestly, "we'll invite them, but don't really care if they come or not," then go for it. I have a good friend whose daughter got married on December 27 or 28th, a couple of years ago; I know it was the Wednesday after Christmas. The MOB said her one HUGE regret was how expensive/inconvenient it was for guests. They were very grateful for how many people came, but she said she stills feels guilty about what it cost their guests and how it disrupted their guests' holidays (they were flying to the wedding on the 26th; your guests will potentially be flying home on the 23rd?). She said, if they had to do it again, they would NOT have made the choices they did.

I'd say, just really think everything through. Daughter & SIL just got married in mid-January, and had many of the advantages/feel of "winter" (Christmasy?) type wedding, but without the cost/inconvenience to guests.

Since majority of your guests are traveling, I would say 22nd is more convenient than 20th.

Agree with the 22nd- less people will have to take the time off work which is one of the biggest inconveniences for people. a brunch reception makes a lot more sense on Sunday too, Friday people might want to party later into the night.

I'd pass on either date, we take off a lot of time for Christmas to spend with family so we wouldn't spend the extra money on extra flights & hotels. But I guess if I didn't have all the family we do to spend time with during Christmas and I had a job with unlimited PTO, I'd prefer Friday.

I would suggest finding another date. While my FH wanted a Christmas wedding it wasn't feasible when half of guest list was coming from to CA to MD. So we gauge interest from them first before selecting 12-7-2019 as our wedding date. I couldn't ask them to decide from choosing between my wedding and their holiday plans.

If it's a brunch wedding, I would usually say Sunday but with it being so close to Christmas guests may have a hard time getting the time off the next day. I understand if you really want this kind of wedding, but I think if you have a lot of out of town guests you may have to get comfortable with a lot of declines. If you were a very close family member or one of my best friends, I would make it happen. If you were a more distant family member or a not very close friend, I likely wouldn't be willing to deal with travel costs right before the holidays to get to your wedding.

I'm not sure which one would be better for your guests, maybe it's a good idea to talk to the people who are your VIPs and see what they feel is better. I just think with a lot of people traveling in you may see a higher rate of decline doing it so close to the holiday.

I'm getting married on December 21, 2019. My fiancé has a large family and a lot of the family is local. We are inviting children to the wedding and we invited some of the family that lives far away to stay at one of our homes (I plan on making little care packages if we have anyone that is staying at a hotel). I am also inviting people for Christmas Eve Dinner at my parents house if they plan to stay for the holidays. My fiancé and I decided on this date because we really wanted a Christmas wedding. If a Christmas wedding is really want you want, then go for it! The people that are your close friends will understand and make every effort to be there!