The date my fiancé and I selected conflicts with a trip my sister already has booked...and my mother expects me to change it.
Background - I am a widow and my fiancé is a widower. I'm 44, he's 51 - we are still young and have so much life to live! His wife died 6 years ago. I lost my 6 year old son 3 years ago and my husband died 2 years ago. He was there for all of it! My late husband and him were childhood friends and grew up together. We have known each other for more than half our lives, travelled together as friends married to our respective partners both near and far, continually watch our children grow, have had so many laughs together, far too many tears and relied on each other at our darkest times.
Since we started dating, we knew that we would get married at some point and be together for the rest of our lives. He proposed on Mother's Day. We've both been through hell and back and life is short. We are the epitome of that!
Well, we decided why wait! Let's get married sooner than later. Between the two of us, our kids are 19, 17 and 7. Christmas break is the ONLY time all 3 kids are on the same scheduled break, until summer. We don't want to wait for summer. Plus, I work in an ag based career and winter is the BEST time for me to enjoy celebrations today and years to come...until I retire!
So, am I crazy, selfish, to say I don't want to move our date? My mother is guilting me into 1 - getting married too fast and 2 - that I "don't care" if my sister is able to come. We are planning a designation wedding in Cancun. My sister is going to New Zealand (again already paid for trip to spread her MIL's ashes on the 50th Anniversary - she died in 2018) and she supposedly told be this when I called to say I got engaged!!! She was my maid of honor in my first, very Catholic wedding. I'd love for her to be there, but this quite frankly I don't want to wait or choose another month! What should we do???
