Just Said Yes October 2021

Date Change Etiquette

Lauren, on June 4, 2020 at 12:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
Hi everyone! My fiancé and I just decided to postpone our wedding from 9/26/20 to 10/9/21. We are not getting married on our original date. Everything will be the same, just a new date next year. We had already sent out save the dates, but not invitations. Do we need to send everyone something in the mail with our new date (like in the next month)? We feel we could reach pretty much all guests by phone or social media and then our parents can reach out to the guests we have no phone number for. We plan to send out re-save the dates, but feel it’s too early to send them now. So basically I’m wondering if I should mail a change of plans now OR just do word of mouth now and then a new save the date sometime in 2021? Thanks!


Latest activity by Jana, on June 4, 2020 at 2:51 PM
  • Julie
    VIP February 2020
    Julie ·
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    I'm fairly confident that we'll have some return to normalcy by the latter half of next year. I'd let people know that the original date isn't happening asap so travel plans aren't made, but then wait until October of this year to send out the new save-the-dates
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
    Courtney ·
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    If you feel like you can reach everyone reliably by phone, text, email etc I would do that. All you’d need to say is that you’re postponing till next year and to be on the look out for a new save the date in a few months.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I would send something to people ASAP just so they know it’s not happening in September.

    Good luck! I hope your new day is everything you’ve dreamed of Smiley smile
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  • Hillary
    Expert October 2021
    Hillary ·
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    We just sent our guests an email or called them
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    A bunch of websites have change of date stationary if you want to send something out now. If you just send out another save the date without reaching out I could see how people could be a little confused. But reaching out via social media or text could be a good option too! I would definitely do that sooner rather than later since people could be making travel and hotel accommodation arrangements at any point.

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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    This was addressed in an etiquette column in a major paper recently and the response was to let everyone know it was cancelled (which means you need to return any gifts already sent) which can be done by word of mouth (texting, email, etc) and start with a new list closer to your new date.

    Save the dates are sent out 6-8 months prior so you have plenty of time.

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