Date advice

Hi there!


I’m looking for some advice on a wedding date. A little bit of a backstory... my fiancé and I originally wanted to get married in fall 2020 after getting engaged in May 2019. My FH brother picked the exact date (October 17th) that we wanted. We were asked by his family to push our wedding back so we chose April 2021 as it was the closest to fall that we could get. Now here we are with my FBIlL reception postponed to June 2020 and us drastically cutting back our wedding. We started discussing moving up our wedding and renting out a huge VRBO in November (which we’re super excited about). So here’s the problem: my SIL is pregnant and does not want to travel across the county at 26 weeks pregnant which is totally understandable. Both of my brothers are also in the military where one is currently out of the country and the other is restricted to his current city. One of the brothers can likely make it in November but not April and the other could likely make it in April but not November. So now I’m stuck on what to do and am feeling very selfish for wanting to get married in November. Any advice would help!