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Dedicated September 2023

Dancing???

Dreia, on November 12, 2022 at 7:33 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 15
Hello! So I’m debating about a dj… so a bit of a back story! Originally my FH and I were planning to elope with 10 guest only in January of 2023. Long story short this created a massive mess with other family members and push and shove from both parents about whom those 10 people should be… fast forward a month or so FH and I decide to have a bigger ceremony and a brunch style reception at a nearby venue. However we’re getting push to hire a dj- FH and I are not dancers like at all. Also never families have met and probably won’t until rehearsal ( much longer story). So my question is do I really need to spend money on a dj? I can’t imagine anybody maybe 15 out of 100 people actually dancing. I’ve been watching video of weddings and I’m not seeing many folks dancing. I’m seeing the bridal party so routines or the groomsmen dancing- and that’s not our style… so again dj or no dj? And before I conclude- no dj does not mean no music at all! Thank you 💖

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Latest activity by Dreia, on November 12, 2022 at 8:54 PM
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    Dedicated September 2023
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    Sorry for so many grammar mistakes!
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
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    At a brunch reception. I honestly would never expect anyone to dance, nor would I ever expect the couple to hire a dj. Some people will dance anywhere and others will only dance in the evening with alcohol served. Many people who don’t dance prefer to mingle and catch up with each other instead without any other entertainment.


    Personally in your situation, I would not hire a dj. If guests don’t like your choice, they can politely decline the invitation.
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    Dedicated September 2023
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    Lol I like you’re attitude 😂. Thank you! I appreciate it. I don’t why our families are being so pushy about the smallest details and making everything so “guest centered”. Like we’ve literally been told by the FMIL we need to do x, y, and z just to please the guests.
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  • Erin
    Super May 2022
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    I’ve even been to a later afternoon wedding where they did not have a DJ. We were all perfectly happy catching up with each other and meeting new people! I think you’d be ok without a DJ 😊
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    Thank you 😊
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  • Michael
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    Once you have guests to a wedding, you need to pay attention to details concerning these guests. Sometimes those who just talk among each other will be happy as long as it seems others are having fun. Even some people dancing can give the feel to others that a party is going on. That said, anything that can be scheduled throughout the reception to draw their attention would be good. That is partly what a DJ helps do. But that is not the only option. Even a lottery can get people's attention and be cheaper. (I don't know if that is a recommendation. lol)

    The other thing is that your budget is what you have to recognize too. If others are not contributing money to help do this, you only have your finances.

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    A lottery? Can you explain 👀 I’m intrigued! Originally others wanted to contribute but were to controlling about the guest list, timing of the ceremony and reception, style of reception- so ultimately me and FH decided to cover our own expenses.
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  • Michael
    Master October 2023
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    The lottery just was to have some prizes of nominal value -- gift cards, a dance with the bridesmaid's sister, or mementos. I don't know if that is a good idea. It was just a way to have something scheduled at some moment.

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    I like that idea- just would have to figure out how to do the entry process!
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  • Michelle
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    Many parents come from previous generations where it was common for their parents to plan the entire wedding how the parents wanted and screw what the bride and groom preferred. So when their kids got married, it was whatever the parents wanted for their own wedding and were not allowed to have. The cycle continues with each generation.


    You and fiancé get one wedding day. Set and maintain firm clear boundaries. Do not let anyone pressure you into anything you don’t want. If you don’t set boundaries with consequences, those same parents and others will dictate your lives after the wedding that are not their business: where you live and work, when and where you spend holidays, when and where future children visit, how future children are raised, and the list goes on.
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    Yikes 😳!!! Thank you deeply for this life advice! We’re definitely young and growing (24 & 23) and I’m definitely going to take your advice to heart!
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    You definitely don't need a DJ if you're not looking for people to be out on the dance floor. We did a playlist and used our venue's sound system - people chatted and ate and had a good time - there were even a few who danced to the playlist. Our DOC made all the announcements.

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    Ohhh perfect! That’s sounds like everyone had a good time. Thank you 😊
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  • Jacks
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    You definitely don't need a DJ! Your wedding will be perfectly fine without one.

    Try not to let people push you into decisions that go against what you want. Boundaries are good!

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    Thank you so much 😊😊
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