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Elizabeth
Super June 2021

Dance all night or grand exit to the hotel?

Elizabeth, on March 14, 2021 at 3:14 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 18
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My fiance and I were talking about when we would want to leave our wedding and we are totally split. On the one hand, we love to dance and be with our families, so maybe we would stay all night. On the other hand, after a long day, we might be ready for alone time and want to head out after a few hours. We also are waiting to have sex until we are married, so we might be eager to skip the party, but I also have friends who were just simply too tires for intimacy on their wedding night. Our whole event starts on the earlier side (2:30pm) but based on past events, some of our family will stick around all night if the music is still going, and we have the venue as long as we want.


We aren't setting a timeline yet, so I'm just curious for other brides and grooms: what did you do?

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Latest activity by Sara, on March 15, 2021 at 3:03 PM
  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Dance all night as long as you can. So many brides say the standard 4 hr reception with 1.5 hrs for dancing goes by in blur so make it last as long as possible. I've never attended a wedding where the couple skipped out early.

    Also most couples are too tired for wedding night sex anyway so wait till the next day and say it's just as magical.

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  • V
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    Veronica ·
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    We got married at a hotel and the ceremony started at 4:30 pm and we had the reception space until 10 pm then we went to the bar within the hotel with anyone who wanted to join us for an after party. We left the bar and went to our hotel room at approximately 12:30-1 am. Yes, we were intimate then immediately went to sleep. We were back up at 8 am for our farewell brunch.

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    That sounds exhausting but so so fun!
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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    That's good to know. I have been to one wedding where they did a grand exit at 9pm and went to the hotel
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    It did make for a long day/night, but we wanted to join some extra time with our friends which is why we choose to have the after party. Some of our friends stayed at the bar even later than us and then attended the farewell brunch the next morning.

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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    Our ceremony was at 2:30 also. Our reception was scheduled to end at 9 and we would leave around 8:30. When we went to leave we realized most people had already left so we had the DJ wrap it up. Sex was a priority for us. We went home and unwound, relaxed, opened presents and got busy, lol.


    I’d say you can’t have to stay the whole time, just stay and party with you guests a while. We had so much fun at our reception. And if you make sex a priority it will happen even if you have an after party and stay up late.
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  • M
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    Melanie ·
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    We have our reception space until 11pm and we're planning to do a grand exit at 10:30. The bar also closes at 10:30, so most people will probably head out around that time as well. For me, if I'm paying for something, I'm going to enjoy it for as long as possible!

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    I totally agree that I want to get the most bang for our buck! Our bar will close at 10pm, but we are allowed to bring our own coolers and music through the venue and basically keep the good times rolling after the staff heads out.
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  • KYLIE
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    KYLIE ·
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    So we really had the best of both worlds. Our wedding was at the hotel where we and most of our guests were staying. After the official end of the reception, we went upstairs together, did the deed and then changed and headed down to after party with our guests, most of whom had also gone to their rooms to change.
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  • Mike
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    Our reception is scheduled till 9 and then we reserved a conference room at the hotel from 10-2 for an after party for those that want to make a full night out of it! This also gives us a chance to get changed and have some alone time before finishing the night out with friends
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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    That sounds like an absolute blast!
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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    Wow that really is the best of both worlds, I love that. I have a more casual dress to change into already, maybe this could work for FH and I
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    You will be too tired for intimacy on your wedding night.

    We did NOT wait until marriage, and the following happened when we got home:

    1. DH helped me unlace the corset back

    2. DH helped me find all the bobby pins in my hair

    3. I washed my makeup off

    4. While I washed my face, DH managed to get out of HIS fancy clothes, and before I even got to bed, he was all but snoring.

    Super exciting.

    You will be EXHAUSTED. And that is not a good recipe for fun times.

    Dance all night. How often do you get to be the star of the party, anyway?

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    That's true, we only get one wedding day!
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  • M
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    Maggie ·
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    I think the hosts should stay until the end of the party so as to spend as much time as possible with all of the people who came to celebrate with them. If you want to turn in early, then plan to officially end your party early. There are lots of considerations that go into a wedding reception timeline, but I wouldn't use wanting to have sex as a deciding factor.

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    I definitely want to stay and see my guests. A few things though:


    1. We aren't the hosts, my parents are2. The wedding could last until 2 am. My cousin's actually went until 6 am. I don't fault any other bride and groom for leaving after the formal festivities.
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    Maggie ·
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    OK, then pretend I said, "the guest of honor" instead of hosts. I wouldn't personally want to stay at a party until 2 am, so I would definitely plan to end it before then. I still don't understand why you would want to leave after only a couple of hours though ("we might be ready for alone time and want to head out after a few hours.").

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  • S
    Expert November 2021
    Sara ·
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    Dance all night! You have the rest of your lives to have sex, but you only get one wedding. I'd make the wedding last as long as it possibly can.

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