Dads not happy

Honestly, he’s doing you a favor. My friend’s dad pulled the same stunt and it hurt, but it also cemented to her the fact that his limited involvement in her life was all for show and not at all because he actually cared for her. Call his bluff. Either he realizes how childish he’s being or you gain a better understanding of what you really mean to him. You’ve still got almost 2 years before your wedding so there is PLENTY of time for things to change.

Did you tell him he wasn't even invited in the first place? Lol

If you really want him there, are you opposed to both parents walking you down the isle?

View Quoted Comment Yes I did I said I still want you to be there but I want mom to walk me down the aisle and he always takes things more personally than he needs to we are having an intimate wedding and it is going to be family only ( me and groom don’t have a lot of friends so as it stands he will not be attending

His childish response to your perfectly reasonable decision confirms that you made the right decision!

Don't let him emotionally blackmail you into getting what he wants. When he threatens not to attend, don't engage, simply say "you'll be missed".

ETA: you aren't getting married until Nov/24. I would stop sharing plans with him entirely, or it will be a loooooooong 2 years.

View Quoted Comment Yes all attendees are being advised not to share any details with him

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Oh wow, I didn't even notice the date. I heartily agree with this advice! The less anyone other than your future spouse knows, the better.

View Quoted Comment Without knowing her dad, please know husband response may be based on an unknown trauma coupled with the feeling of rejection.

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OK. But it's not a kid's job to worry about their parents' trauma responses when planning their wedding. Something like who walks who down the aisle is not a valid reason to threaten to not attend a wedding over.