Daddy Issues (kidding, but really.)

Would you want to do any of those parent dances ?

Similar experience...I would stick to your plan with your brother and maybe ask your dad to suggest a song for the 2 of you to dance to...

Hey Nicole. I understand how you’re feeling. My dad wasn’t in my life at all until I was months from turning 18, and because of the circumstances we have never developed a relationship. I would stick with having your brother walk you down the aisle. If it’s something you would be comfortable with, maybe do a short father daughter dance like Melle suggested, but to me that would be awkward. In my opinion (which is largely colored by my own “daddy issues”), he’s invited so that means he’s included. Obviously I don’t know all the circumstances, but I wouldn’t go out of my way for someone who hasn’t made an effort to be part of my life. Then again, maybe this could be a turning point 🤷‍♀️. Good luck! I totally sympathize!

I wouldn't change any of your plans to accommodate him. Don't change your plans with your brother because he has decided to come. You don't have to honor a relationship that wasn't maintained since you were a child. It was very big of you to invite him, and I think that that along with the fact that he's attending is plenty. You do not have to follow any traditions that you do not want to follow.

All I can say is don’t break your trust with your brother. It’s not worth it.

Maybe both of them can walk you down...ive seen that before.

If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't want him to walk me down the aisle. Not even part of the way with my brother. I don't think that he's earned the privilege of giving you away. You just don't have that relationship with him. If you want to honor your relationship with him you can definitely do a special dance, but I don't think I would worry about honoring someone who isn't a significant part of my life. It's generous of you to let him attend the wedding, you're not obligated to let him fulfill the traditional "father role" in the wedding just because you've seen that done at other weddings.

I'm in a very similar situation, at the time I got engaged I hadn't spoken to my dad for about two years and we were definitely not on good terms. I asked my grandfather who raised me to walk me down the aisle. Well then of course my dad and I started talking again and were getting along well. When I finally told him he got VERY mad at me. He is from Italy very traditional and believes he deserves that respect as the father. He was not open to walking with us and I'm not about to fire my grandfather. My dad seems to have gotten over it at least for now and I plan on probably asking him if he wants to have a father daughter dance.

If you wanted you could have them both walk you down the isle or you do a father daughter dance. If you don't want to include your dad you don't have to. It is your wedding!

I don't want to suggest because I don't have perspective on this. I can say my mom went through that with her dad being in and out of her life and 30% present but when she married, she had her dad walk her down the aisle. They're relationship is still less than 30% but very cordial today. I pray you'll receieve the wisdom needed to make a sound/ loving decision. Good luck!