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Just Said Yes November 2022

Dad with cancer

Ashley, on January 3, 2022 at 10:30 PM Posted in Planning 0 2

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I am getting married in November of 2022. Unfortunately, my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer recently and is not expected to live long enough to be a part of my wedding. This is a major concern of mine because I obviously want my dad to walk me down the isle, give me away and have a father daughter dance. I am looking into options to have some type of small ceremony or something significant with him in regards to our wedding. I’ve heard of options such as a bridal photoshoot with my dad or having a immediate family ceremony before our actual wedding. I’m interested in finding out what other options are out there so that we still have our regular wedding ceremony and reception in November (since we’ve already put non-refundable deposits down we don’t want to cancel). Please, any advice is appreciated!

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Latest activity by Sharon, on January 4, 2022 at 12:00 PM

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JA · on January 4, 2022 at 6:10 AM
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Similar happened to a family member of mine, and first of all, I'm so sorry!
Of course this is a crazy year for weddings, but they were able to talk to their venue and move the wedding date closer. Maybe your venue would be able to work with you and pick a sooner date?
I personally think that having some kind of wedding (even if it is just immediate family) sounds like a lovely option if you don't want your dad to miss it. Its been really common lately for couples to get married privately and then still do a big wedding at a later date! My Fh and I are doing that too.
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Sharon · on January 4, 2022 at 12:00 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your dad!!
My suggestion is to do a small ceremony now where he can walk you down the aisle and be part of the most important day of your life so you will always have the memory of that special moment. I'm sure your dad would treasure that moment. You can hire a photographer and have photos taken.
Similar to you, after we put a deposit down on a venue and set a date there were some health concerns regarding my mother-in-law and whether she would be able to attend our wedding. We put together a church ceremony in about a month for our immediate family and then went to the restaurant where we had our first date to celebrate with them. We hired a photographer so we'd have a lot of pictures. I bought a long white dress for about $40, got a veil on Amazon, got bouquets, etc. It was a beautiful day and everyone loved the intimacy of it. Fast forward to this past September and we did the full celebration we had originally planned only this time I wore a wedding gown. We did a ceremony to re-affirm our vows. No one thought it was weird or unnecessary and the people who didn't attend the first wedding were happy to be a part of this ceremony. You do what you feel is best for your situation and that will leave you with no regrets. People who know and love you will understand whatever you decide to do.
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