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Peyton
Beginner May 2021

Dad Wedding Dress Shopping?

Peyton, on June 12, 2020 at 12:48 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 11
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So I booked an appointment to go wedding dress shopping and asked my crew to go with me, including my 2 sisters in law, my best friend since 4th grade, and my mom. My mom mentioned to me that she would prefer that my dad not go because she thought it would be more fun as a girls trip and because my dad would steal the show (he is very over the top), and because it would make mine and my dads first look at the wedding more special. I mentioned to my dad that we had a date to go dress shopping, and he looked a little surprised. We had talked in the past about how he would go with me to find my wedding dress and I always imagined him going.


So now I feel that if I bring my dad my mom won’t feel as special, and if I don’t bring my dad, his feelings will be hurt. I feel really stuck and don’t know what to do. I have a great relationship with both of them, so I want my dad to be there but I also understand what my mom is saying. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Melle, on June 12, 2020 at 6:13 PM
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I tho my you should get to choose who you want to be with you. Your mom will just have to understand that’s it’s your day and these are your decisions. Unfortunately if you give in too early on things you might be frustrated a lot during the planning process. If you have always envisioned your dad being there then he should go with you. Good luck!
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    What was your original plan before your mom made the comment about not inviting your dad? If your plan has always been to invite your dad then I would invite him. Don't let anyone sway your decision, it is your day! Both my mom and dad came dress shopping with me and it was such a special experience for us!

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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
    Renee ·
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    Bring your dad. I wish my dad was alive to go dress shopping with me because he is just that, over the top! I could here hear him now, “that dress is putting me to sleep or You must be trying to steal the show, this is the one!”
    Your mom is going to have to get off her high horse! At least that’s what I would tell my mom. Plus I’m a daddy’s girl!!
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  • Laura
    Super September 2026
    Laura ·
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    Two appointments?? One for each? Lol!! Let dad go with you. Just make sure that he doesn't know which dress in the end. Smiley winking
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    You should definitely get to choose who you would like there. But, that is a lot of people, relatively speaking. Maybe limit the initial trip to just your parents and include your friends and SILs later?

    I went shopping alone (my preference) but lots of people have posted here about realizing after the fact that too many people are...too many people. It makes it more stressful, with too many opinions and pressure to choose one dress over another.

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  • H
    Devoted August 2023
    Hhh ·
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    Bring your dad. I never really thought about bringing my dad, but he has watched Say Yes to the Dress with us over the years (all daughters!) but my mom told me in the morning that he seemed sad about not being invited even though he would never say it. He was SO happy to be included! Such a special moment for a dad, and honestly mine had much better advice on dresses than my mom. He isn’t normally the type to like any form of shopping, but it was really nice to have him there.
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  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2020
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    I had appointments at a couple bridal salons and took my dad to the first one. He watches all the Say Yes to the Dress shows with my mom and I and so I know he loved coming with even though we didn’t say yes that day. The second appointment he stayed home and I went with my girl squad and ended up saying yes to the dress and tried FaceTiming him so he could share the moment of saying yes. Just keep in mind it might take more than one appointment to say yes to a dress so you could theoretically appease both in the long run.
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  • Leanne
    Super September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    Go with your gut on what YOU want to do that day. Although in my opinion less is more, the more people you bring the more opinions you get and it can make for an unproductive appointment.
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  • Breanna
    Devoted September 2020
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    I say let him go with! If you've always imagined him there with you then he should be there. As for the first look, that'll still be just as special. He'll get to see you fully dressed up and the full picture of it all. In my opinion it'll be even more special because he was able to be there to pick out the perfect dress!
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  • M
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    It sounds like you’re doing what your mom wants instead of what you want.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think your mom would feel any less special if he went though.

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