Dad wants to walk me, but...

It's completely valid for you to not want to have anyone walk you down the aisle at your wedding. And remember, even if your dad wants to do it and expresses hurt at the thought of not doing, telling him no does not make you wrong. Your feelings matter.

If you want to compromise (not required) offer him something else (e.g., to give a welcome speech at the reception or to have a dance with you). Try explaining your feelings to him (stick to "I statements") and see if that helps. If not, just be polite and loving and firm, and then change the subject. Repeat as necessary.

Thought about that a while back, but I don't want to walk with my mom either. I guess we just aren't that type of family haha

Yeah that question never even entered into my head (about the officiant) so I guess that's good. It's probably going to be a friend marrying us, so that will be easy to omit!

I very much appreciate this comment. I just don't feel like it's in the cards for me. I love my dad and if this is all he's asking from me...then I can't find it in myself to say no.

The question now isn't is he, the question now is HOW is he?

I guess that's a better way of looking at it. To be asking someone who has supported me to do so at this event. I think I might be able to look at it that way instead....

I did also think of the halfway point, but then the sitting down thing gets awkward with a short aisle! still possible...maybe?

For some reason my mind didn't go to the "Giving away" question at all. I think it's safe to say that it won't be included. I'm sure we'll probably tailor the whole ceremony how we want it. Short and sweet!

I think my FH would probably like the idea of walking with both of his parents. He loves them dearly and that would be a good way for him to get up there. I think I would probably have my mom and brother walk together before my dad and I just because it almost feels more strange for the bride to walk with both of her parents? I dunno!

If only my dad was just partial to the idea...my mom told me he was DEVASTATED. I don't want to devastate my dad so I'll just have to work something out to make us both happy!

If you want to make it clear that he's not "giving" you away, you could ask the officiant to ask "who gives this girl away" or whatever they say, and you could have your dad say "she is giving herself" or something like that. I also don't really think anyone puts the emphasis on the Father/Daughter Walk like they used to, I think it's just a tradition that Dad's look forward to with their daughters. It's rare now that a girl has never paid a bill or had a job or any responsibility and the dad is "giving her" to the husband to continue to baby her and pay all the bills and take care of her like the dad was. (Hope that doesn't offend anyone)

As much as people say "it's your day, do whatever you want!" I kind of feel like there are important people in your life who have helped you get to where you are today and it's a little inconsiderate to not go along with a few things that are important to them, mostly as a Thank You gesture.

Hmm Interesting idea! If we HAD to answer that question that's probably how I'd do it.

Exactly, my dad is super supportive of me and I don't want to make him feel Jilted if that's all he's really asking of me. So I will just have to make it clear that he's escorting me and not "giving" me away.

Also, if you're having programs, you could write "escorted by Father" on the program. I don't know if people usually write "Given away by" I don't think ever seen a wedding program actually haha

Oh also a good call! I like that!

If its just the words of "giving away" that are bothering you is there a way to not include that In your ceremony? Just have your dad walk with you and then when you get to the end of the aisle he goes and takes a seat and you stand up with FS. This way he still gets the honor of walking you but the "giving away" part is not included.