Dad & Step Dad - Who should walk me down the aisle?

Why not both?

That's what my original plan was but my MIL seems to think that will hurt my dad's feelings and my FH agrees. Now I'm not sure what to do!

Giving you away is only the small part of the ceremony, will you give them seperate dances at the reception? And how well does your MIL know your father?I'm sure if you sit down and talk to him it won't be too much of an issue.

I agree with Lynzey.

That's exactly what I was going to say Lynzey. I've seen that done as well.

Lynzey, that's kind of the idea I was going for until my MIL chimed in and said she thought it would hurt my dad's feelings. So now I'm worried it will!

OhHeyItsIna, I had thought if both walk me down the isle (or halfway), I would only give my dad the father daughter dance and catch up with stepdad for a dance when everyone is on the dance floor -- so my dad could have his own special moment.

Perhaps I should flip and have only dad walk me down the isle and then do two father daughter dances?

I like Lynzey's idea. Idk how your MIL knows that your dad would be offended by this but I don't think he would. It would represent your step-dad coming into your life along the way. I think it would be a really great and symbolic idea. I would talk with your dad first of course, but honestly I dont think it will be an issue...The father-daughter dance, leave it for dad.

My sister and I both ran into this. She had them each walk her half way (they switched halfway down the aisle). I'm going to have them both walk me down the aisle and dance with each of them during the parents dances. They're both important in my life, so I didn't want to exclude either one.

You could have your dad walk you down and when you the preacher or officiant asks, "who gives this woman?" You step dad could stand up there with y'all and say his deal too.

I'm having my father & uncle both walk me down the aisle. My father was a ghost in my life but his mom insist that he walks me. My uncle was there for me and I have to honor him. So as a compromise both will share in the experience

I think both would be fine. If they both were important in your life you should incorporate them. It's your day. They will support you.

Both

Both. My FH and I have talked about this issue for the distant future when my daughter gets married. He has been in her life since her 1st birthday and said he would be extremely sad if he wasn't able to walk her down the aisle one day.

I wouldn't dream of asking my step dad to walk me down the aisle even though he and my mother married when I was in the 4th grade--just depends on the relationship you have...

What if your dad walked you down the aisle but you do two father daughter dances, one with your dad and one with your step dad?

You could switch off - I've seen this done well where one walks partway, and hands you off to the other while he walks behind the rest of the way.

Or, go untraditional - walk by yourself, or with your FH. The FH route is a great way to save everyone's feelings, plus if you're nervous, you'll be much calmer walking with him. Do a "first look" with your photographer if you want to get his reaction captured. Then walk down the aisle as the couple you already are. Be confident. It's your wedding, so do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. Your family will understand.