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Dad & Step Dad - Father Daughter Dance & Give away?!?!

Monica, on December 7, 2016 at 10:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

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I know I can't be the only one with this dilemma! My parents divorced almost 20 years ago when I was 13. My Mom remarried a great man, who was really more of a father figure than my own Dad. My Dad & I were never SUPER close, but over the last few years, we've developed a pretty good relationship-he gives Dad advice but we can talk like friends (for the most part). My Dad recently broke up with his girlfriend of 17 years so we've gotten even closer as I have been helping him get back out there (he wants to, not forcing him). ANYWAYS, I want them both to be recognized as my father & I'm cool with them both walking me down the aisle, but how do I respectfully do a Father Daughter dance? I'm open to foregoing it completely to avoid hurt feelings & any unintentional disrespect. I know my Step Dad would be ok with not dancing with me, but Dad would be crushed so dancing with one & not the other is not an option. Two dances? No dance? I know, I've got time to figure this out, but ahh help!=(

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Latest activity by Brittany, on December 8, 2016 at 12:58 PM

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Futuremrswilson · on December 7, 2016 at 10:09 PM
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Why not dance with both? When I filled out our music paperwork for the DJ he showed me a sample from a previous wedding and that bride was in a similar situation and she danced with both. I think it's a beautiful way to honor both special men in your life
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StealingtheKredel · on December 7, 2016 at 10:10 PM
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I am going to be doing two dances , just make them short and sweet
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Melissa · on December 7, 2016 at 10:17 PM
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Dance with both! Start the dance with your dad and halfway through have your step-dad step in. Just be honest with them and tell them you want them both equally involved!
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FutureMrsPaldino · on December 7, 2016 at 10:42 PM
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My SIL danced with her father and step-father! She started the dance with her dad and about halfway thru, switched to her step-dad. It worked out perfectly.
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Katherine · on December 7, 2016 at 10:59 PM
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I would do two separate dances with them. You can trim the songs to ~2 minutes so it's not too much time.
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Ayana · on December 7, 2016 at 11:57 PM
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Put together a dummy routine that includes them both something lighthearted and entertaining
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Mandi · on December 8, 2016 at 1:09 AM
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I danced with both my dad and my step-dad. Picked a different song for each.
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Justine · on December 8, 2016 at 7:27 AM
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Two dances. That's what we will have to do. Both our parents are remarried.
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Ally · on December 8, 2016 at 11:02 AM
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Dance with both! It will be a great memory for both of them.
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Emily · on December 8, 2016 at 11:38 AM
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I agree with everyone else dance with both! One of my friends got married last year she had both her dad and step-dad walk her down the aisle and when they did the dance they switched half way in between. So her step-dad hand her off to her father (or the other way around I don't really remember). It was really sweet hope this helps!
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Brittany · on December 8, 2016 at 12:58 PM
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I am having the same issue but me and my dad are not close at all. He lives in Arizona and I am in California. My Step Dad will be walking me down the aisle and my dad is invited just like any other guest. I have decided to wait to see if my dad will make the trip first and then worry about the first dance or hurting his feelings about my step dad walking me down the aisle.
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