Dad refusing to come to my wedding

I’m a family oriented person. I take my relationship w anyone very seriously. In my eyes, despite their flaws, my parents walk on water. Especially my mom. My dad always remained involved in my life but honestly it was my mother who did like 87-90% of the work. Raising 2 girls theoretically by herself. My parents split when I was in the 6th grade.


Fast forward, I told my mom I was going to have a courthouse wedding bc it’s too expensive for a real wedding right now and In 7 short days she (& my future mother in law) threw together a quick beach wedding. I want my mom AND my dad to walk me down the aisle, but my dad thinks it would be a slap in his face, or he’d come off as incompetent if he weren’t walking me without my mother.
At this point, he told me he’s not going to come if my mom is gonna walk me down as well and my wedding is in like 4 days. I told him so late bc my mom was telling me to make sure he knows and I didn’t even think it would be necessary.
But idk what to do. I can’t imagine my mom not hand me off w him. They both raised me and my mom did the most. Maybe I’m taking too much of a feminist approach but idk what I should do.