Dad recent stroke left him paralysed on left side. Wedding this Weekend..what to do with the father daughter

I would skip it. He's probably not very confident yet in his new life curve ball. Maybe hire a singer to sing a song to him and sit on his lap? That would be very sweet

I'd do something instead to honor him, like read a poem.

ETA I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'm glad he will be there to celebrate the day with you.

Both of those ideas seem good. At any rate you should propably talk to him about what you plan to do, so then he's not nervous going up to the planned time for the father daughter dance or caught off guard by the change.

Good luck for your wedding, and for his continued health.

First of all let me say I love your wedding date-it would have been my dad's 71st bday. 2nd of all my mom not only had a stroke 5 years ago but is also a Neuro nurse and she says one of the most frustrating things while recovering from the stroke is people assuming for the patient...so Alyssa is definitely right..talk to him, ask him what he's comfortable with. The poem, the song..all wonderful ideas...but you never know, pops might be ready to dance, even if it's just for a few seconds-my dad was a paraplegic, it can be done I'm thinking of ya and praying for a strong recovery for your dad.

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. You should speak with your dad and ask him what he wants to do. Have some suggestions ready (I like the ones the ladies here have provided). Hopefully your dad will have a speedy recovery.

I'm very sorry to hear of your dad's stroke. I agree with Kristy. It's probably weighing on his mind as much as it is yours, that he won't be able to dance with his daughter on her wedding day.

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's stroke, but to be able to attend a wedding a little over a week after is amazing. As a nurse, I 'm impressed. I hope he has a speedy recovery. Talk to him about it. The dancing might be good rehab.

So sorry to hear about your dad! I guess it would depend on how he is feeling and what he feels comfortable with. Doing at least something for him would be nice, like a poem like someone suggested.

So sorry to hear about your dad. Good thing he is able to make your wedding though. I know that means alot to both of you. I would (lik other poster suggested), ask him what he is comfortable with.

anything that you come up with will be special and meaningful for you both and everyone in attendance

Skip it....for his safety and comfort.

Do you have time to gather a bunch of photos from your childhood to now with you and your dad? You could make a photo montage with the song that you and he were going to dance to together and play that instead...providing your venue/dj has the proper equiptment

I'm so sorry. You've gotten some great suggestions, but I just wanted to wish you well.

I wish you the best and a speedy recovery for your dad. My FFIL had a stroke 2 years ago and hes still recovering my grandfather had one 10 years ago and he still can't walk properly I know how difficult it is to deal with that. I would just skip the dance and maybe do something to honor him or like a slide show with photos of you and him that you can display at the reception, or maybe read him a poem.

What does your dad want to do? if he still wants to do it, then I'd have him sit in a wheelchair on the floor and you can kind of dance with him holding his hands during your special song.

I wouldn't assume that he doesn't want to try something like this.people assuming that you just 'aren't able' or don't want to is the most hurtful thing of all. I'd do what you can to see what your dad wants to do.

Ask him what he wants to do. I like stitching brides wheelchair idea. Many wishes to him for a speedy recovery. Sentimental is more important than perfect pictures. I got married in my fathers hospital room in ICU days before he passed. I have no regrets. I do a few good pics of us. He was laying in bed for the ceremony but sat on side for his cake and a beer with new SIL. Precious moments and memories for me

I have a close friend that is permanently in a wheelchair, and I know that she gets tired of people not being on her level. Maybe reserve a chair (with a little sign "for the bride"?) so that you can go over and visit your Dad at the reception and spend a little quality time, face to face, when you can. That's in addition to the other great ideas above. Be sure to tell your photographer, videographer, officiant and any other vendors that will be working closely with you that day. I'm sure they will be very thoughtful of the situation. Wishing you & your family all the best!

OP - this breaks my heart more than you can know. The exact same thing happened to my daddy, stroke in 2008, paralyzed on the left side. He worked so hard to go through physical therapy, electric therapy, brain stem cell surgery. He died in 2009 from the brain surgery. It broke my heart. If he can get up and even slightly sway from side to side (safely and no danger of falling) I would do it. My heart shatters thinking of my wedding without my Daddy, in honor of all of us who lost their fathers, have the dance.

Wishing you absolutely the best, I have joy in my heart that you have your dad there.

Joylynn, I'm sorry to hear about your dad's stroke, but I think it's great that he's able to be there for your special day. I would talk to him and see what he thinks about the father-daughter dance. Do you have access to some photos of the two of you? I really like the idea of a slide show with pics of the two of you with the song you were going to dance to. What song were you going to use? I'll be thinking of you. I hope your day is all you've dreamed it would be.

I'm sorry to hear about your dad's stroke, but glad that he is alive and healing. I think you should ask him what he would like to do. If he feels he is strong enough, then do your dance. If not, another way to honour him would be great like others have mentioned - a song played just for him, a poem, a speech by you to the guests telling them what an amazing dad he is, etc etc.

So sorry to hear about your dad. I would talk to him and see what he wants to do. Maybe bring up some of the ideas that other ladies have mentioned and ask him what he's feeling up to.