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Dad officiating?

wonderland1988, on February 17, 2016 at 9:28 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

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So in the past two weeks my fiancé and I have found a new venue after the previous one cancelling on us but now we have an issue with the officiant. We are getting married in a chapel and had planned on hiring an officiant to marry us. My dad is a very conservative pastor that my FH and I don't really agree with (I'm a progressive Christian and my FH is agnostic). I thought that he understood that but he sent me a text two nights ago asking if he was officiating or not... He has officiated all of my siblings weddings but I just don't know... What do y'all think? I know you will be honest!

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Latest activity by Possum, on February 17, 2016 at 10:09 PM

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Jessi · on February 17, 2016 at 9:29 PM
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If you don't agree with his views and don't think he would tailor the ceremony to fit your and FH's views, hire a pro, but be prepared for your dad's feelings to get hurt.
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MonRose · on February 17, 2016 at 9:31 PM
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I would just ask that he respects the kind of ceremony and you and your FH want, with as much or as little mention of faith as you are comfortable with.
If you don't think he will do that, hire an outside professional.
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Becka · on February 17, 2016 at 9:31 PM
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I am having my dad officiate the wedding for a few reasons. My FH is not religious but my family is and we talked to my dad and he agreed to customize the wedding for us so that we don't have that many religious aspects. Also I don't know prices for your area but to find an officiant was going to be $500 so that really persuaded us to let my dad officiate since he isn't going to charge us. My advice would be to talk to your dad and see if he will customize the ceremony to eliminate some of the religious aspects that make you uncomfortable, if so I would have your dad officiate especially if he has officiated your siblings its a nice personal touch.
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Possum · on February 17, 2016 at 10:09 PM
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Two reasons your dad shouldn't officiate: 1) you don't agree with his views and 2) my dad is a pastor, I wanted him to be the father of the bride and not the officiant. He said a prayer during our ceremony, but we had another pastor do the ceremony.
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