Dad not coming to the wedding

I am so sorry. Maybe your dad will come around once it gets closer to the wedding. I don't think you should cancel the wedding- I don't think that will make your dad come around for a reason like that.

Don't cancel your wedding! Your better off in the end not having his negativity ruin your day. I know it hurts but If he doesn't support you then he doesn't need to be there

Yikes, that's so rough. I'm sorry, Carr. Big hugs.

I agree don't cancel your wedding. Give him some time, maybe his girlfriend can talk to him again. Or maybe you can talk to him and ask he to postpone the surgery.

It does suck. He came for my older sister's wedding and he is here now because his nephew's daughter is graduating from college. I am not going to cancel the wedding but it does sting that he refuses to come.

Shit happens. DH parents didn't come to his wedding because they are dumb. We had an amazing day without them and didn't phase us one bit on the day of that they weren't there.

Definitely do not cancel your wedding. If you dad chooses to not attend because he doesn't approve for the reasons you are stating then that's his problem, and in the end he's going to regret this decision.

My father didn't show either and he lives in the same country as me lol.

You can't make your dad explain to you what is going on because it really does sound like this is more than "oh i can't make it because of surgery". He's being passive aggressive and that's a real jerky thing to do. All you can do is not allow this to get to you by saying that it's a reflection on him versus you. Leave the door open and try not to dwell on this, as disappointing as it is.

@ Janeen, I tried not to show him I was hurt, when he said he is not coming I responded with " I guess you will see the pictures then". He definitely has his favorite kids and those are the older ones. My brother and I had a long talk about it and we both came to the agreement that he never did anything for us as adults and always showed who he preferred. I am not going to mention it to him and just let it be. One less mouth to feed.

That sucks that he's not coming. But I'm glad you're not canceling the wedding because of it either. It's up in the air if my FFIL is coming to the wedding. He's pulling one of his tantrums and told FSIL that he may just go to Portugal the week of the wedding. At this point (and with his shitty attitude and all the stunts he pulls) I don't care if he shows up or not.

I'm really sorry to hear that. Hopefully he'll change his mind.

I'm so sorry maybe he'll come? My dad isn't coming and we're in the same country