Dad insists on his plus one

So, Due to Covid we had to cut over 50 people from our wedding. That means myself and my fiancé had to call and personally uninvite people which were people we love and truly wanted at our big day. Everyone was understanding for the most part. Our RSVP cut off was July 10th. One of my frustrations during this whole thing has been people don’t RSVP but still tell other people that they are attending. I had to reach out to everybody that was not on the list, and also make an Instagram story for people to see letting them know that if they did not RSVP to please not to show up because we are trying to be compliant with the new laws. and it seems like it’s mostly the people that are related to us or close friends that think it’s just OK to just show up to a wedding and even in a normal circumstance that’s not OK but certainly not now because if we go over at all we can get the whole wedding shut down.


So I called my dad yesterday to kind of vent and he agreed that this is awful that people are doing this and causing unnecessary stress but in the same conversation he told me that his plus one is going. A month ago he told my fiancé and I that he hasn’t talk to her in a few weeks and then I don’t need to worry about her being at the wedding.
little backstory is she has been on again off again with him since I was eight years old, she has always treated me like crap, and for the last 10 years she has not been in my life and I don’t go to things where she is present. I’ve been planning my wedding for two years and we’ve postponed it one time, and even when we were allowed to have over 100 guests I asked that she not attend either and he always says something like “we’ll see”. So yesterday he said that he just talked to her the day before and she wants to go and I told him I’m sorry but no because I put in my numbers on July 11 with the venue. And then he said “we’ll see , your putting me in a tough spot “ and I said no it’s not we’ll see I already put in my numbers and he told us that she wasn’t going so it’s a no. Then he acts like he never said she wasn’t going and I told him regardless if you said she wasn’t or not it was never confirmed that she was so at this point we don’t have a spot for her (and honestly we don’t) And again he says oh well I’ll talk to her and we’ll see. So I got frustrated and ended the phone call but I sent him a text message saying that we had to get rid of people that we love and we actually want there and she’s not somebody I love or actually want there so I don’t think it’s fair for him to be asking that she goes and takes the place of somebody else that we would rather have there. He Ignores my text message and then tells me yesterday that she is coming and that she always planned on coming. I don’t know how to be more stern about this I don’t understand why he’s giving me this unnecessary stress.