Dad and Step-dad

Honestly that’s what I was going to do. I think the best way to do it is the compliment sandwich. Obviously there would have to be some changes to it, but I’d honestly tell him how great he is, how much I love him, and then tell him how much it would mean for both dads to walk me down the aisle and why, then end with maybe “ thank you dad, you’re the best.” I don’t know how well that would work but it’s a suggestion.

That’s interesting and I wish you luck with that. I have to worry about hurting my dads feeling bc I want both my mom & him to walk me down the isle. I’m kind of not worried about it bc if anyone looks at the history there they'd understand but I don’t think he’ll understand.

I would talk to him about how important it is to you that the 2 most important men who’ve had such a great impact in your life should walk you down the aisle.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. The sandwich method is good

However you bring it up, I would do it well in advance and in person. My sister wanted both dad and step dad to walk her down the aisle but sprang that news on our dad via text the night of the rehearsal. Needless to say, he didn’t end up attending her wedding. Not saying that this would happen to you, but I think if he had been given a greater heads up with a conversation in person, it may have had different results.

I know several women with great step dads, or an adoptive dad and the bio-dad, who wanted this and for 3 of 4 it about caused a war. When I have known 2 dad situations where 1 does the walk, and the other a spotlight dance, or one the walk, and the other MC at the reception, both dancing with the bride with other dancers ( no spotlight) it has always gone smoothly. One way is both having half of the baby. The other is each taking there own set time with the baby. I would never recommend both having to share one thing at the same time. It may sound fair, but is a compromise that makes both unhappy. Give each their one undivided time.

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I agree with Judith I would not split the duties of walking down The isle. Hold that for your dad and then do a special dance with your step dad or involve him somehow else in the ceremony and have him walk your mother down the isle. And be introduced at the reception with your mom