Cutting The Guestlist

Did you already send save the dates or in any way notify these people that they are invited? If so, it would not go well telling them they are no longer invited.

Our wedding is in October as well (changed from May) and I sent out change the date cards. Honestly, if PA doesn’t allow us our full capacity come October, then I’ll have to reach out to extended family, and some friends, and make it clear that while we’d love to have them, restrictions must be met and we have to have our immediate family there. They will understand, there’s a lot going on!

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Have you already sent save the dates? If so, I would reach out to each household individually and let them know that you would love to have them there, but you have to cut the guest list down to immediately family in order to meet state requirements.

View Quoted Comment STD Have Already Been Sent Out And We Are Going To Send Out ALL Invites Still Next Month. We Arent Cutting Anybody Yet Unless Absolutely Necessary When The Time Comes.

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Sending invites out 5 months in advance is never a good idea, but especially not when we're in the middle of a pandemic and you have no idea what your capacity will be like by October.

View Quoted Comment Our RSVP Date Is August 1st, Therefore We Will Be Sending Them Early And As I Said We Are Planning As Normal.

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Sorry, it seemed like you wanted advice since, well, you asked for it. Best of luck with that!

View Quoted Comment Yes Advice On How To Politely Tell People We Had To Cut The Guestlist IF It Comes To That Later On. Sorry You Didnt Understand.

I think if you just say due to government mandated law you can’t have more than 50 guests they honestly should understand. I imagine you wouldn’t be cutting immediate family or anything.

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Im thinking the same thing except my guestlist is 200ppl. We notified everyone that the wedding was cancelled. We sent text message save the dates to all the important family/friends and Im waiting to send out invitations in case only 50ppl are allowed. But ultimately I think everyone should understand. If we have to cut the list last minute we will say something like “We were so excited and looking forward to celebrating with you, however the large gathering restrictions are limiting our guestcount. We regret to say that we can only accommodate immediate family and friends, but would like to invite you to join us from your living room via Zoom”

Look up the “you’re uninvited letter” on here!! Her wording was perfect, I forget who it was. But honestly you might have only 50/60 respond that they’re coming anyway so you might be okay!!😊

View Quoted Comment Thank You! I Didnt Even Think About Zoom.

View Quoted Comment Thank You Ill Look Into It! && I Thought The Same Thing I just Want To Be Prepared ☺️

View Quoted Comment Not sure how we will make it work but we will try even if I have to trust someone to zoom for us using my cell phone.

Figure out who you're going to cut if it comes to that and DO NOT SEND THEM INVITATIONS. If, as the date gets closer, you find you can have them attend, invite them at that time. Pandemic or not, if you send them an invitation and then tell them they can't come, that's a slap in the face.

Don't use Covid as an excuse to be rude. Especially since it's a possibility you need to cut your list and you know this already, you should NOT be inviting "hope they can still come but I might have to tell them nevermind" people.

Depends on how many what I would call no call no shows there are going to be since its 10 over you might be hood just ridingit out. But does that 50 also include staff? If not you would have to cut more to follow the guidelines, and as adults I would think they would understand the whole restriction thing.

I think people are pretty understanding given the circumstances. I would contact each personally and let them know that due to COVID and wanting to keep social distance and a safe celebration, you’ve had to edit your guest list. Some people may even be relieved as they aren’t comfortable attending a large gathering.

Why is your RSVP date more than two months before your wedding date? That is far, far too early.