Cutting the Guest List down

Bless this post is all I have to say LOL

Only part I don't agree with is the part about not inviting the partner of someone who is in a relationship, if you don't know them. How far does this go? Can you just invite one member of an engaged or married couple, and not the other?

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This is such a tricky scenario, in my opinion. For example, I'm inviting my best friend's boyfriend/the father of her child who I have never met before due to them living across the country, for obvious reasons. But one of my FH's friends just got into a relationship with a girl we've never met (or really ever heard him talk about before), so we're on the fence about whether or not we should include her on the guest list 11 months out. FH says no, but I feel like we probably should? We want to keep our list as small as possible, just immediate family and a few friends, but unknown/unexpected plus ones can really inflate that number.

View Quoted Comment Re: new Girlfriend, check status again at Invitation time.


They could be serious or broken up by then.
It’s a good thing that I didn’t send Save the dates.
Some of the people that would’ve received one weren’t actually invited.

View Quoted Comment No. As much as we don’t want to share OUR day, event, moment with people that we don’t know, it’s not possible to have met every single person that might attend.


You have to invite people that are engaged or seriously involved with someone that IS on your guest list.

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I don't see that as being a real issue. You've got 11 months before the wedding. If they are still together at that point, they are clearly in a serious relationship, and she should be invited. If they are not, the problem goes away.

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She's not the only one, just an example. And it's the guest count total teetering between one tier and the next and trying to book an appropriate space for the size, and trying to have a small wedding on a tight budget & "cutting the guest list" is near impossible when my immediate family is already 30 people. There are multiple question marks in our guest count for various reasons, which is annoying when you want to book a big enough space but not too big if half the list declines since we're having a DW. Better safe than sorry of course, but kind of tedious nevertheless.

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Luckily most of the list is either family or lifelong friends, people we've always pictured at our wedding.