Cutting lists

Usually that *is* rude... but times are a little different.

Start with who you absolutely *must* have there - family, best friends - and cut down from there.

There are a LOT of couples who had to do this, and most of them sent cards apologizing, explaining the state rules, and often offering a link to the stream of the ceremony.

Another way is to start with the farthest away guests.

Once you decide on who you need to uninvite, send a card to those who you are uninviting, just stating that due to COVID restrictions, you are unable to still invite them to your wedding. If you're planning to offer a live stream, definitely include that info too! This website has a good template that you can use to write the letter: https://theeverylastdetail.com/coronavirus-wedding-postponement-email-templates-to-send-to-guests/

I imagine you will face some backlqsh from ppl who are noy making tough calls like this. That being said id say apologize profusely and explain that you hve to keep it to close family and a small amount of friends.


Id also suggest maybe reaching out to ppl and ask them if theyre comfortable coming if they say no u can tell them that they dont have to? Maybe that alone will help get your guest list down to 115?

Definitely contact them personally. I agree with a pp to maybe start with the ones farthest away (not including your immediate family of course). Also if you have out of state guests (or any guest that has to fly) maybe cut them first. They might even be grateful that they won't have to do major travel.

Etiquette is still in place during a pandemic no matter what and applies even more, not less, to navigate the current chaos and confusion. Make it easy for everyone by sticking to social rules already in place. That is straight from the experts themselves (Emily Post, Miss Manners).
Once a save the date is sent according to them, an invite is required. The only way to uninvite is to cancel the regularly scheduled wedding and start over with all new date/location.

I sent them a virtual invite and explained to them that we had to drastically cut our guest list down.