Cutting kids from the wedding?

I didn’t want kids either, but a lot of my cousins have kids and that means they would all have to find babysitters to come and honestly I’d be bummed if my whole family wasn’t there. ALSO some of my family is out of state and if I do no kids it wouldn’t be fair that they could bring kids and not my other closer lived family. And I don’t foresee them living their kids in another state lol

I decided on no kids because the number was outrageous. Just out of state alone was 24 kids. I agree that they can find a baby sitter. Those that really want to be there for you that day will find a way to make it happen. Some will be upset with you and make it about not being able to bring the kids. You would piss off more people if you let some kids come and not others. Also, at the end of the day it’s up to you. The only kids that will be at mine are my son and daughter who will be my flower girl and ring bearer. And even then I’m contemplating hiring a babysitter for the bridal suite to stay with them.

Kids under five - our caterer let us take them off count for food. You should have a real conversation about the “babies and toddlers” with the caterer. everybody knows that toddler don’t eat as much as an adult. They should be willing to work with you on it or at least give you a better price for the very little children.

Also we didn’t invite every child. My mom demanded my cousin’s children were invited. Only some came not all and nobody asked why the kids were there. Some parents want a date night and don’t want to bring the kids?

It’s fine to invite children in circles. If you’re questioned about it, just say “I’m sorry, because of budget restrictions we could only invite children who are in the wedding and our wedding party’s children.”

We aren’t allowing kids at our wedding accept for the kids who are in it

View Quoted Comment I agree with this! If the majority of them are under 5 I don’t see why they would expect you to pay the adult price for their meals. No toddler is gonna eat that much food.

View Quoted Comment Yeah we have a couple like that. My FH has divorced parents, and his dads side that we only met a few years ago and aren't super close to have a ton of kids. We have a groomsman from out of state who will have to bring his two, but most of the family in question live within a two hour drive.

View Quoted Comment It's not even the food but just renting the chairs and tables. That many kids requires 2 extra tables and more chairs because they are old enough to sit in their own. And those add up when you add 15 to 20 more

View Quoted Comment True, ita not just the food but the table, chair, and linen rental because none of that is included in my venue. They would be old enough they would need their own seat and that many kids is two extra tables.