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Cutting guest list wording

Kristen, on August 22, 2020 at 8:27 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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I have seen this post on here various times by couples that reduced their guest list for weddings. Can you let me know exactly how you worded it to people? My maid of honor feels that during the time of covid-19 and that the event is being held at her house its best to limit numbers. Personally I agree and I want to keep her and her house and family safe. Invitations have not been sent out but I did mention to a couple of friends that it was an event that was being planned. They already told me that they've been doing a lot of self isolation and not really being around a of groups of people but I want to still find a nice way to explain that we're cutting the guest list and while I love for them to be there but we're limiting numbers. I am thinking of the best way to say it that's not rude so that understand it's a Covid thing.

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Latest activity by Kristen, on August 22, 2020 at 4:16 PM

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Lisa · on August 22, 2020 at 8:30 AM
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This website has a few templates for emails/letters you can send to guests that you have to uninvite due to COVID: https://theeverylastdetail.com/coronavirus-wedding-postponement-email-templates-to-send-to-guests/
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Mindy · on August 22, 2020 at 8:54 AM
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You can also include a zoom or other live stream option for those who won’t be able to make it in person. That way they can still be a part of your day.
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Kristen · on August 22, 2020 at 8:55 AM
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Oooh thanks so much. 😊
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Kristen · on August 22, 2020 at 8:55 AM
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For a bridal brunch? I dunno if they wanna watch a bunch of ladies sitting around eating and drinking ha ha. Not a bad idea though
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Mindy · on August 22, 2020 at 8:57 AM
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They could have their own snack and drinks while they’re on the call.
Then if you are doing games or opening gifts, they can be a part of it 🙂
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Kristen · on August 22, 2020 at 9:01 AM
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Well since I am not having a big wedding I am not having a registry or requesting gifts. Just want a fun time with my friends. We all love to eat and drink ha ha.
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Mindy · on August 22, 2020 at 9:05 AM
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That sounds like a blast! I wish I could do something like that.
I have been anti-bridal shower from the jump but everyone in my social group (friends and family) is insisting that I have one 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
My moh and one bridesmaid are supposedly planning a virtual bridal shower since covid restrictions and multi-state travel make having an in-person one impossible.
I think your friends would still have a good time virtually celebrating with you. Plus then they can have whatever food or drink they want and won’t be limited to what’s provided lol 😂
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Eri · on August 22, 2020 at 10:18 AM
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There are definitely a lot of great templates on any of the big invitation sites!
We sent these to people who we sent save the dates to, but who we can no longer invite:
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Kristen · on August 22, 2020 at 10:48 AM
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That's cute. I mean I personally don't even think she would go because I know that she's been practicing self-isolation but I just want to be able to like message her kind of like that and just say hey we needed to trim the guest list because it's like oh well of the people I'm cutting it's going to be you you know what I mean? Ultimately I just need to pull the Band-Aid off and just tell her I just want to be upfront with her like I don't want her to find out on social media or something like that you know what I mean
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Kristen · on August 22, 2020 at 12:09 PM
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Yeah I see what ya mean. I am only reducing it by like 5 people. I want to still have something in person. I guess I feel bad cutting people but inviting them to see it virtually ya know?
I am not sure about your state but even if I am just with a few people I would be happy. I just wanna celebrate. You could do the same. It is not a shower because I know that is against etiquette but I do not like the mindset that if you choose not to spend tons of money on a big wedding you get nothing that some people have so my MOH and I are funding it and not requesting gifts or creating a registry. So basically my friends are invited to come eat, drink and play some games (whichever ones she chose lol).
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Mindy · on August 22, 2020 at 1:57 PM
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Celebrate away! 🎉
If I was closer than a 6 hour drive to any of my people, I’d do something in person with them.

But I totally understand feeling guilty about cutting 5. If it were a larger number and only 5 of you were in person, then it wouldn’t be so bad...that’s definitely a pickle. 🤔
Most of Virginia can have gatherings up to 250. I haven’t looked to see if my area has been brought back to that or not. Last I knew it was gatherings up to 50, 50% capacity for indoor dining, no alcohol sold after 10pm, and all restaurants closed by midnight.
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Katie · on August 22, 2020 at 2:39 PM
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I just called people over the phone. Since it was only a handful of people and formal invites hadn’t gone out yet, I found this easy to have a brief chat and explain the changes. Everyone was very understanding and happy to chat.
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Leanne · on August 22, 2020 at 3:04 PM
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I sent hand written thank you cards to the 28 people we uninvited:
“Thank you so much for wanting to celebrate our special day with us. Unfortunately, due to the updated guidelines on social gatherings, we were forced to make drastic decisions. We are so sorry, but we have to cancel our invitation. We look forward to a return to normalcy when we can all get together again soon. Thank you for your understanding during this difficult planning time. “
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Kristen · on August 22, 2020 at 4:16 PM
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Yeah she and I spoke and luckily she was not planning to come anyway because she wants to limit contact due to COVID so we both understood.
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