Crying babies during the ceremony

I am fine* with having children at my wedding. But my priest asked that I ask my guest to excuse themselves if a baby becomes fussy during the ceremony. I am needing suggestions (not opinions) on how to word that in my details card.

Serious comments only

Do you have a wedding website? If so, and if people use it then
naybe put something there? "If your little one wants to help with our vows could you please quite then in the outter room?" That way it's not phrased harshly?

Hmm this one's tricky. Some people might take it as you dont think they can parent their kids properly.

Just curious what happens if somebody refuses to take their kid outside? Is your priest going to stop the ceremony until they do?

If theres an empty room nearby maybe have a sign saying something like "Please feel free to use this room if your little one gets antsy" ?

Let people parent. Calling it out that they should take a screaming baby out is unnecessary and a tad offensive.

I think that's... A lot. However, I was in a wedding where prior to the bride entering, the officiant asked for no phones or cameras and how the guests should stand. If it's that important to him that crying babies leave, he can announce it.

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This. I think putting it in writing on your details card comes off as rude.

I think that's on the preist to announce at the start, you can designate a quiet area within the church. Overall it's a strong faux pas to tell parents what to do. The preist should really know better as well.
If you pick a quiet area you can list it on the website as a quiet room with something like "Churches can be uncomfortable and weddings can be long, we have designated AREA as our quiet room for guests who may need to excuse themselves during the ceremony"

View Quoted Comment And he could say it nicely! Not a demand. Like, I notice we have a lot of little ones among the guests, if anyone gets fussy or needs a break, we have a nursery through the door on the left set up just for you! (or wherever it is lol)

Many parents these days indeed struggle with parenting and can be quite inconsiderate. I would just request no infants or no children at all.

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I agree. I think it just sounds better coming from him. I also feel like most parents should already know to take their kids out if they're fussy lol

If your priest is making the request, he can make an annoucement before the ceremony starts. I wouldn't really include it anywhere. People know how to parent and people know when their child is being disruptive to step outside. I think its common knowledge. If you're uncomfortable telling your guests, its probably because you know you don't have to.

View Quoted Comment I was raised in a church where we celebrate the cries and giggles and noises of the babies, because it meant our church was blessed and growing. I mean I'd take my crying baby out of a wedding, but I wouldn't care if they were crying at mine. I fully expect my nieces and nephews are going to make some noise during my ceremony 😂 and their parents are in the wedding so can't readily swoop them away. I would rather have my mom be witness with a crying toddler than leave with them🤷🏼‍♀️

I do have a website and I believe they do have a designated area in the church. So I think a combination of that and asking the priest to announced that prior to starting the ceremony hopefully it will get the point across. I have been to previous family gatherings, a mass in remembrance of a grandparent and the family member baby was screaming so loud the priest and the family asked them to step out twice, granted the priest didn’t advise the parent before starting the mass. I don’t think it comes off as rude just asking them to be considerate.

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Came here to say this. If it's his request, he should find a way to make it.

I would say let the priest make that announcement since he is the one who brought it up, but you could also post it on your website if you want to. Are you being married in the church? Does it have a cry room? You should verify whether there is just a designated area or a cry room and whether or not guests can still see/hear the wedding from the cry room or if it will be like they've left the ceremony entirely.

View Quoted Comment I think that depends on the church. As a PP said some churches actively celebrate having babies make noise. My church does so I'd be extremely put off having a preist say something to a parent like that and consider leaving. So a lot will depend on what sort of church your guests attend. Having an announcement in the start is more proactive.

I feel like only religious people who regularly attend church know to take their kids to the back hall or room. People who are not religious, don't know this etiquette necessarily. But agree with some of the others that he can make a quick announcement. I have never been a church where it was okay to let the baby wail away crying in the main area. Every time, they get taken to the back hall.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. I like the sign idea, and wording Chandra provided. Beyond that, maybe have something like “there will be a room provided right outside of the ceremony for parents to utilize as needed for antsy little ones” on your wedding website.

View Quoted Comment Honestly I’m gonna cry more than any baby at my wedding 😂😂😂

The priest should do this himself. Just a few words at the beginning of the ceremony should be sufficient. And people are more likely to pay attention to that than to something on a website (that people may not look at or may not remember).