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Felicia
Just Said Yes October 2021

Creating a Seating Chart w/o a Bridal Party

Felicia, on April 1, 2021 at 8:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

I need some advice on how to go about seating my fiance and myself for the reception. Generally, the bride and groom sit at a head table with their bridal party and it's all good. But, we decided that we don't want a bridal party (for many reasons, namely that it will be less of a headache), and now I'm confused as to where we should sit. I was originally thinking that we could have our own little table to ourselves and just put it near a table of family members. Or, even just sit amongst our family members (there will only be about 8 or 9 of them - we both have hardly any family). I really like the idea of my fiance and I being set apart from friends and family so that we can have our own little space to decorate with Mr and Mrs stuff and all that cute-type of stuff, but I also don't want it to look awkward if it's just us at our own little table. It seems like it will be more difficult to have that "set apart" feeling if we sit with our family. I've been messing around with the seating chart tool to get different ideas, but it's difficult not being able to fully envision the space I will have to work with at our venue. I should note that the space for our reception is not exactly huge, but we are only expecting around 50ish guests to attend. Any advice? Would we look weird sitting by ourselves? It's just for dinner, we fully plan to mingle and party with our guests!

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Latest activity by Cyndy, on April 2, 2021 at 7:40 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Sweetheart tables are VERY common nowadays. We had one and it was nice to have our own table, by ourselves to sneak away to and grab a bite to eat.
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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    What you’re describing is called a sweetheart table and is actually the norm where I’m from (I’ve literally never seen a head table except in movies). You won’t be missing anything and will actually enjoy the couple minutes of private time you two have during dinner. If people want to come talk to you, they will, but typically most people leave the couple alone to eat at their table.
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  • Nicole
    Devoted August 2022
    Nicole ·
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    We don't have a bridal party and we plan to sit at our own table (sweetheart table). I'm looking forward to it!
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  • Felicia
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Felicia ·
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    I've never heard of that! Any wedding I've been to has always had a head table. Thank you, I think you're right about guests probably leaving us alone to eat. Like I said, it's just for dinner. We plan to spend most our time on the dance floor haha

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  • Felicia
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Felicia ·
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    I'm noticing more and more couples doing away with bridal parties these days! It seems so much easier than dealing with the drama that usually comes with clashing bridesmaids and unreliable groomsmen...

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    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    No!!!! That’s totally normal! That’s exactly what me and my fiancé are doing! I actually prefer riding room at sweetheart tables as opposed to sitting with the bridal party. Sometimes it seems like they get lost in the bridal party table anyway
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    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    Creating a Seating Chart w/o a Bridal Party 1
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    Bride, meet The Sweetheart table lol
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    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    100% its all drama. It causes relationship problems between friends and true colors to show. You are 100% correct for not want to the bridal party
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    Sweetheart tables are very, very common nowadays! If you search on Pinterest, you’ll find tons of inspiration photos. That’s what we are doing (also chose not to have a wedding party), and our sweetheart table will have a fairy light panel behind it, which is probably one of my favorite decor splurges in the whole wedding!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Sweetheart tables for the couple are much more popular. Plus kinder to your attendants when you do have them so they can be seated with their significant others.

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  • Jennifer
    Savvy August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Having a “sweetheart table” (sitting just the 2 of you) is very common and won’t look or seem weird at all. I highly recommend it!
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    We’re doing a sweetheart table- immediate family (& the bridal party) will sit at the 1st 3 tables. Other relatives & friends will be at the remaining tables.
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  • Felicia
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Felicia ·
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    I seriously had no idea! I feel like a doofus now lol 😂😂😂 those are all beautiful! Now I'm excited to do one!
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  • Felicia
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Felicia ·
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    I am blown away at how many other brides knew about this lol I literally did not know it was a thing! Or had a name! Also, fairy lights are amazing - sounds like you're going to have a beautiful setup!
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    Judith ·
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    A sweetheart table can be set up with a curved display on the far side of the couple till they have had dinner and a break, then moved and 2-4 conversation chairs set on the empty side so that people can come and sit and talk 5-10 minutes, then leave.
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    We also had a sweetheart table and loved it. People left UA alone to enjoy our dinner and it gave us a few minutes to unwind together. Your bridal party can be seated with their spouse/SO and enjoy the dinner as well. This is very common now so nobody will think anything of it.
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