My FH and I are struggling with a name change. I really want to take his name because I just always imagined doing it that way and he never said otherwise. Last night, he told me that he would prefer I keep mine or that he take my last name.
He hates his last name because it was poorly translated into English from Chinese. He feels like he faces discrimination because of his name for job opportunities and when he was in school because it is very obvious that it is a Chinese name. He does not want me or our future children to face discrimination, so he doesn't want me to change my name. He is also not attached to his name as a "family name" because it isn't truly his family name. He received this name when he came to the US at 8 years old.
For me, I just never imagined keeping my name and don't want to do so. I don't want to answer questions about why I kept it and I really want my husbands name.
Our thought is to both take on a new last name that is closer to his real family name. Has anyone done this? Like if a Smith and a Jones marry and decide to take the name Brown or something. Would the process be the same as if I were just taking on his normal last name?