Crazy Stepmother

It would cause a lot more drama to not invite your dads wife. On your wedding day, just ignore whatever crap she says. I have my bridesmaids on FSIL watch - if she says anything ridiculous, they will immediately move in and distract me. Maybe have a BM do that for you?

I agree with A & J, it would cause more drama not inviting your father's wife. I know that my MOH and my FH will keep everyone in line on the day of our wedding so its not an issue for me. If you don't think you can "recruit" a BM to do that for you, maybe talk to your father about keeping his wife in check.

Thank you A & J that is a good idea.

Theresa my dad is aware so hopefully he will keep her in check.

Erin she is awful. If you only knew. :/

MoonRide you are probably right about her giving me years of trouble afterwards. I didn't think about that. Thanks for the insight.

I think it's too late to uninvite her especially because you are around them.

I told my dad from the beginning and i know people on here don't agree but I am not inviting his wife. The reasons being 1. she is the whore that my dad cheated on my mom with 2. She would call our house phone to talk to him knowning he was married and had kids 3. she hates me and wishes i didn't exsist because her and dad used to date and went their own ways so now she wants to turn back time and pretend we don't exist. Not sorry that she will not be attending but F that lol

Mr. & Mrs. Chavarin I totally understand why you aren't inviting your stepmother and you have good reasons not to. I definitely wouldn't question you not inviting her.

No, you're grown, you probably don't have to deal with her too muc anyway. FMIL is totally not invited to the wedding, she's crazy. She cheated on FFIL, they got divorced, she moved to Cali, but still trying to dictate/rule things here in Texas. FH is totally on board with her not coming. His step-mom on the other hand is awesome.

Ohhhh girl, I feel you.

My fathers girlfriend (read: hoe) is not invited to the wedding for multiple reasons.... It'd actually be more drama to have her there.

but shes super crazy, and comes up with ridiculous reasons shes supposed to be there.

"but im organized, unlike you"

"whether you like it or not, im your fathers future, you are his past. I belong there" (yeah, I almost threw a plate at her for that)

"I want to make your mother understand she cant have your father" (he cheated on my mother with her...its still messy)

"well really, its OUR money now, so its like im paying for some of your wedding."

hate step's. lol.

I feel for you. Unfortunately like others have said, you probably still have to invite her or the drama that follows would be worse since they are in the same area. I can't stand my dad's girlfriend. The last time I went to visit she pissed me off more than anyone has quite possibly in my entire life. My dad isn't my biological dad, but I have his last name, his name is on my birth certificate and I was raised with him as my dad. I found out at one point that he wasn't my bio dad, but he's always been my dad. While we were out there she had the audacity to call me his "step child". I've never been called that in all of my life. She's an alcoholic drama queen and having her there would be a nightmare because of other things she has done as well. Luckily for me they live in Pennsylvania and I live in Nebraska. They are not invited to the wedding.

That is awful that you have to deal with this, but I agree with everyone else you still need to invite her or it is going to cause a lot more drama, good luck.