Crazy in laws!!!!

I would stop including them in any conversations related to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I will definitely not be talking to her personally. If I have to tell her something my FH will tell her.

I agree with Sarah. I would also have your FH take care of it, as it's his side of the family. My FH would never let someone speak to me that way, especially a relative.

View Quoted Comment He took up for me! And he was going to tell him mom, because his aunt can be dramatic. She said that I was being rude and crazy. He got so mad at them he let them all have it. I’m so thankful that he took up for me.

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Good for him! I'm glad you're marrying someone who will stand up for you against his own family, it's sad that some people won't do that for their partners just because "it's family". FMIL and I have always had a good relationship, but at the very beginning of our engagement she started MAJOR drama (why, I still have no idea). Anyways, FH drove to her house as soon as she sent me the text that started it all and told her to get it together or he would personally escort her out of our wedding if she showed up with that attitude. I was like "oh snap, this man just put his mama in her place for me!"

Try not to let it get the best of you, that may be what you want. Sit down with your FH and tell him all that's happened and how it makes you feel. Don't be rude and try not to be too emotional, just be calm and explain to him why it hurts your feelings and how you're perceiving their actions. I'm sure he'll see why this upsets you and handle it. Otherwise, distance yourself from them or including them in things. You don't deserve to be treated so rudely!

Stop including them. I had similar problems, but with my mother. Anytime I updated her on our progress it somehow turned into an argument. So I stopped telling her things. Any information that needed to be given my now husband did it. Maybe have your FH relay the information that is need to no only. People get crazy during weddings and you don't need the added stress

Don't even include them in the planning anymore. save yourself the stress and drama! also maybe talk to your FH. see if he can put a stop to any of it. best of luck!

I definitely agree with PPs. I'd quit including them in wedding planning/ conversations in general about the wedding. I'm glad your FH is standing by your side!

You need to just cut that side of the family out of the planning updates. They don't need to know anyway, unless it is something that specifically pertains to them. If you have any of them in your wedding party, then you'll have to share some of your details. Otherwise, they don't need to know.

It will save you a whole lot of drama and stress throughout this process. The less they know, the less they'll have to complain about. Just saying.......

Why are you dictating the hairstyle of a little girl?

View Quoted Comment She’s a junior bridesmaids

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So, you shouldn't be dictating anyone's hairstyle - especially children.

Your in-laws absolutely shouldn't be saying things to you like you described. However, if these are the kinds of things that you are consistently telling them, then i can see how'd that would be off-putting.

Just don't give them details about the wedding anymore other than "this is the dress, this is when you should show up".

View Quoted Comment I think it's completely fair to want someone that's in the bridal party to have a certain hair style. Part of being a bridesmaid is agreeing to stuff like that. There's nothing wrong with having a certain hairstyle it isn't invasive or anything

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Absolutely untrue. Hair is so personal and styles you like may not work at all for the type of hair someone else has, for example. Agreeing to be a bridesmaid doesn't mean that someone gets to dictate your body for a day.

View Quoted Comment It's a hairstyle, not that serious. If you don't think it'd work then maybe mention that, but you agree to look a certain way for sure. Agreeing to wear a certain dress or outfit is no different than agreeing to a certain hairstyle. It's not "dictating your body" you have the option of not being a bridesmaid. When you go to work you agree to meet certain standards, it's really no different.

I agree with the others I could stop including them in the planning and if anything’s need to be communicated to them I would have your FH talk to them.

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Being paid for a job =/= being given the honor of being a bridesmaid or maid of honor. BM/MOH should wear the chosen dress, but that's as far as it goes. Shoes should not be dictated beyond possibly requesting a specific neutral color, and hair is up to the person on whose head it lives.

I personally think you should stop including them in the wedding discussions.

I agree with you wanting a similar look for the girls. However If you are not paying for the hair you can't really request a particular look. You can say I prefer all ladies where their hair up or down, loose or curly but If they cant afford to pay for it then a salon style shouldn't be requested.

I wish you luck on your Upcoming nuptials and I'm happy to hear that your FH stuck up for you.

Stop mentioning anything about the wedding to them, and the day of tell the hair dresser how you would like the hair done