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"Crashing" a Wedding

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Victoria, on August 7, 2019 at 10:36 AM

Hello. I just got engaged about 4 weeks ago and we started looking at venues right away. We are planning to get married in 2 years (although we are flexible with our actual date). We think we have found the perfect venue but it has only been around for 6 years so I am a little concerned about what the food tastes like, portions, what the service is like, etc. and it just so happens my best friend is going to a wedding there this coming Friday and said she would take pictures and tell me all about it before we finalize this decision. My question is, is it wrong for me and 2 other people to show up at this wedding on Friday just to see what the venue looks like in action? I think it's totally crazy and not OK to show up at someone else's wedding in order to peak and look around and see what the place actually looks like done up, but everyone else is saying who cares lets just show up and that no one will even know we aren't supposed to be there LOL. Thoughts? Has anyone ever done this?

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Master October 2019
Meghan · on August 7, 2019 at 1:22 PM
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Please don't do this! This is very inappropriate. Venue's offer tours. You can read reviews. You can do food tastings. And if your friend is going to the wedding, she can take the photos for you. There is no reason for you to go.
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Jeanie · on August 7, 2019 at 2:43 PM
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You should absolutely not crash someone’s wedding. I believe the other posters have covered that. However, some venues will allow you to come in earlier in the day to see a wedding that is set up. This would be something arranged beforehand where the couple who’s wedding it is would not be there. An easy way to see if this is allowed is to call the venue and ask. But don’t just show up to a wedding uninvited.
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Just Said Yes November 2020
Janel · on August 7, 2019 at 2:48 PM
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Would you like if random people showed up at your wedding?
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VIP October 2019
Ivy ORP · on August 7, 2019 at 4:06 PM
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I was so concerned thinking you were considering it. I'm glad you told them it's a bad idea but now I'm wondering if they often crash weddings. haha
Side note: I actually do know a bride that was crashed by groomsmen AND the groom from another wedding at the same venue. They came for the dancing but most of us were annoyed that they were also partaking in the open bar!!!!! She laughed and thought it was great they would rather be at her wedding, they were in Marine dress uniforms so I guess they got a pass, but most everyone else agreed it was rude as heck, including the bride's mom who showed up to take the groom away by the ear! I wonder what happened to that marriage. lol
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dancingwiththekumars · on August 7, 2019 at 5:27 PM
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Agreed! Your friend is kind enough to send you pics, that is sufficient for now.
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Michaela · on August 7, 2019 at 5:55 PM
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Same as what Haley said. My wedding is in a ballroom that's connected to a bar with many windows. We go to this bar and peak inside to see how they decided to decorate all the time. My grandmother sends me pictures of stuff there weekly lol. But I would never walk in to the ballroom when there were guests around
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Erin · on August 8, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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I agree it’s very rude to crash a wedding. I highly doubt you would want random people showing up at your wedding uninvited, and you should extend that same courtesy to this other couple. They’ve worked hard to plan their special day, and that should be respected. Your friend already agreed to take pictures and video, I think that is more than enough. And if you’re still feeling unsure, book a more established venue instead.
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