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Just Said Yes April 2020

Crappy Bridesmaids

Wallinginlove, on February 21, 2020 at 11:29 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 8

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Has anyone else experienced an AWFUL time trying to get the people they asked (who accepted) to participate in the wedding? I have two girls that pretty much refuse to talk to me now, and have been giving me a run around on when (if) they’ll be buying their dresses. I chose the cheapest dress I could because I know everyone doesn’t have extra money. It’s 49 days until my wedding and they have yet to order or respond to multiple texts from a group chat and from individual text. These are girls I’ve been friends with for 7+ years.

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Latest activity by Melissa, on February 22, 2020 at 11:40 PM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on February 21, 2020 at 11:32 AM
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it is unfortunate that it’s common that this happens. People don’t get as excited as we hope.
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Meghan · on February 21, 2020 at 11:37 AM
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Have you asked them why they have not ordered their dresses yet? Unfortunately, it sounds like you have done all you can at this point. You can't force them to buy the dress or to respond to texts . I would just plan on not having them as BM's if they do not have the dresses on your wedding day and they can attend your wedding as guests.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on February 21, 2020 at 11:40 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through that! Fortunately I didn't have to, but the best advice I have is to just let it be. If they do get their dresses, they can be in the wedding. If not, they don't!
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Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on February 21, 2020 at 12:21 PM
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One of my bridesmaids had a meltdown over not being moh and decided 2 months out not to come, my brother in law decided a few weeks out he’d rather play PlayStation than come to our wedding all expenses paid, and my husband’s other groomsman ghosted him. We had 4 out of 7 of our original party. You’ll find out who really cares about you.
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on February 21, 2020 at 12:35 PM
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I agree with this here. I would contact them and ask them if there is a reason they have not responded about buying the dresses. I would do this individually and not in a group chat. I would ask them if they are still able to get their dresses and be bridesmaids. If they say nothing then as this poster said, I would not count on them being there as bridesmaids. I would also re-consider your relationship with them personally.
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Dedicated May 2020
Allie · on February 21, 2020 at 3:09 PM
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I’m going through something similar too, but it’s actually my FH sisters so it really sucks. I thought having them as bridesmaids would bring us closer but I feel like they don’t really care. At this point all I can do is hope for the best and enjoy my day! I agree that weddings do show peoples true colors for sure! Look at it as a good thing: you can reevaluate those relationships now. Just try not to stress, it’s not a reflection of you!
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Rebecca · on February 21, 2020 at 8:43 PM
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I’ve got a dead weight in my bridal party as well. I’m less than 200 days out (thanks for reminder, wedding wire). I regret choosing my BMs so soon (this time last year). It is what it is! Weddings will show you who your friends are/what relationships matter. Don’t let them ruin your special day!
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Melissa · on February 22, 2020 at 11:40 PM
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Yup, unfortunately I spotted her dress because she was very laggy through the entire process and has yet to pay me back and now we no longer speak.
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