Coworkers want to be invited???

If they have to ask if they’re invited, then no don’t invite them. Just simply say it’s an intimate wedding with close family and friends.

Everyone should understand that weddings are expensive and that we have to invite a ton of family and there is little money left over. If you feel conflict averse you could invite no one from the salon, but you should not feel obligated to invite or not invite anyone. It’s ok to invite just your closest friends from the salon. After the wedding you could bring everyone a party favor as a way of showing you care and you thought about them even though you didn’t invite them. Maybe add a little note like “thanks for helping me brainstorm ideas as I planned the wedding!”

View Quoted Comment I agree 100% with this.

I work in HR and we see each other every day and it is a small group of us. 1 is in my wedding because we are extremely close and we do not allow work to spill over into our personal relationship and a few will be invited and by a few I mean 5 the other 8 to 10 will not be extended an invitation, I try not to talk about it around them because I just don't want them in any aspect of my personal life.

Of course they want to come, everyone wants to be invited to weddings. Unfortunately, that's not how it works. If you don't want to invite them, just say "I wish I could invite everyone, but we're keeping the guest list to close friends and family only."

Do not feel obligated to invite co-workers.

My team was displaced.

I only handed out invites to those that I really wanted to see and continue a relationship with.

The others, I wish them well. I have heard from only one person that was not invited. She wanted something as usual. So, this was the right choice for me.

Omg, does anyone have any idea what it’s like to have someone want something from you all the time, but they can’t EVER do anything to help you?!

That One: I found my venue while trying to help her find one.

The other One, I took Wedding items to work, sold her some of it to help her out, and was I not invited to her Wedding.

I asked her to give me a date and time that I could come by and see what she had in the Garage since she’s been married for 6 years. Still waiting...

I was not...

FH and I were stressing over inviting all of our coworkers in both of our departments since they all know we're getting married. But as our list grew, I said "you know, I don't see why we feel obligated to invite people to the most intimate day of our lives when we've never spent a minute with them outside of the office?". He agreed 100%. Our wedding is primarily family, family friends that watched us grow up, and a few close friends. He may be inviting one of his old bosses and two guys he loved working with, I will be inviting my old boss, a girl I used to work with, and possibly my current boss.

I had this problem at first too. A lot of the women in my office made comments about being at the wedding, my FW heard much of the same. When we looked at our guest list we knew we couldn't do it and the fact that our venue has a small capacity has been our fallback excuse. After mentioning once that I was having a hard time cutting the guest list due to this, it was like all the women got together and knew to stop asking. Now they are excited for the pictures when I return. I think if you just let them know you don't have the room or budget, they will still be happy for you. Maybe plan a night out for drinks with everyone before the wedding.

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I agree with this and I want to add: Stop talking about your wedding at work and keep everything off social media. No FB, IG, Tweet, nothing.

I have told friends that I am only doing family and close family friends because of cost reasons. I also hate that people assume they are invited to my wedding, and I find it very rude.

To be honest, I wouldn’t invite any or there could be major drama (especially at a workplace with 30 women).

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I agree with this - there could be many hurt feelings and things could get uncomfortable. If you routinely socialize with one and have a friendship outside of work, that gets a green light. Otherwise....no one is invited.

It's your day. This is what flustered me the most. Just because you work with someone doesn't make them entitled to an invite. I had to straight up tell a coworker this one day. Invite them to the dance part of the reception. Give them a reception card that says they're invited for drinks and dancing and put the time you intend to start the dance at. people just want to feel involved but sometimes people tend to over step their boundaries. If you hang out with a select few co-workers outside of work, I'd invite those ladies to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment So true! I have friends of my parents who they don't routinely hang out with that think they need invites! 🙄 Like guess who's paying for this? Lol

We aren’t inviting any coworkers. Neither of us hang out with any of them outside of work. Like PPs have said, you can tell them you’re keeping it to close friends and family. Weddings are expensive, so you should not feel obligated to invite everyone. I would not invite some and not others, unless you actually do have a relationship with some of them,