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Just Said Yes October 2019

Coworkers on Guest List

Katie, on August 12, 2019 at 2:31 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

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I started my job in March and have been engaged since February. I am on a 3 person team consisting of myself, a coworker, and our boss. Our guest list is nearing it's cap and I'd like opinions on adding these coworkers to the dance only portion of the reception (no dinner). We did send out save-the-dates which they did not receive.

My fiance has many more coworkers who he as opted for only inviting to the dance.

I'm normally opposed to dance only invites but I'm not sure what else to do. My fiance is the one who suggested this as an option. I'm love to hear other's thoughts on this.

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Latest activity by Katie, on August 12, 2019 at 2:59 PM

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Melle · on August 12, 2019 at 2:35 PM
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Ive personally never heard of that at all. I'm not sure how that would fair to be honest. But I think it's ok to not invite any of the coworkers at all if you don't have any room vs only inviting them to a segment of the night.
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MrsD · on August 12, 2019 at 2:35 PM
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Are people actually coming just for dancing? I would be pretty offended to not be invited to the ceremony or the reception, and basically just the dancing portion.
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Kathleen · on August 12, 2019 at 2:41 PM
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I think that since you were engaged before you started working there, you don't owe them an invite. However only inviting someone to a dance is kind of offending.
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Maggie · on August 12, 2019 at 2:45 PM
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I won't touch the dance-only invite question, but I think a really good rule of thumb for coworkers is if you see them socially outside of work or not. If you don't, there is no reason to invite them to a personal celebration. It's also highly unlikely you would keep in touch if you (or they) changed jobs, so that's another reason not to invite.
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Samantha · on August 12, 2019 at 2:49 PM
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You’re not at all obligated to invite them to any portion of the wedding. Your engagement predates your employment so no one will think anything of it. But even if that weren’t the case, I don’t know that you owe them an invite.
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Just Said Yes October 2019
Katie · on August 12, 2019 at 2:59 PM
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Thank you all for your input. I am in no way, shape or form an advocate of the dance only portion. My dad (a wedding novice) put a bug in my fiance's ear about it and he ran with it.

I wanted reassurance that I wouldn't be a damned bride if I didn't invite my team. I'm glad to hear that many people mimic my thoughts and have peace of mind regarding this.
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